3 Secrets To Life-Long Happiness – Marisa Peer


– I bet you’d love to know
how to be happy all the time. Well, I’m Marisa Peer, and today I’m going to
show you the three secrets. The three keys that you can adopt, embrace, and put into your life that will allow you to be happy all the time. (upbeat music) Everybody wants to be happy and we’re all looking to be happy. And we seem to have this weird belief that there’s some destination we’re gonna get to one
day called Happiness. But there’s no destination
called Happiness. There’s no terminal you’re ever going to arrive at in your life
called This Is The Happy Place. If you want to be happy, and why wouldn’t you wanna be happy? Here’s the way to be happy. You gotta be happy right now. I see so many people who go, “I’ll be happy when my kid can walk. “When my kid can feed themself. “I’ll be happy when my kid’s gone. “So I gotta be happy when.” And if you buy into that
“I’ll be happy when”, you’re never happy
because when never comes. I’ll be happy when I’m
married, I’m single. If I can find a great
person, I’ll be happy. And then you know what you do? You just swap all the
problems of being single to having to compromise with somebody else because you have this
belief “I’ll be happy when”. So if you want to be happy,
here’s how to be happy. Decide to be happy right now. Don’t do that, I’ll be happy
when I get to my holiday. I’m super stressed at the airport, I’m having a manic one, but
when I get there, I’ll be happy. Because now you’ve told your mind that happiness is
somewhere you’re going to. Tell your mind the truth. I am happy right now. I’ve decided to be happy in the moment. I’m choosing to be happy. You see, your mind is set up to do what you tell it. And every time you say to your
mind “I’ll be happy when”, it believes that happiness is out there and you’re going there, but
you might never get there. When you go, “I’m happy right now. “I’m happy packing. “I’m happy at the stress of the airport. “I’m happy this minute. “I am choosing to be happy.” Then your mind understands the truth. Happiness is now. You’re not going to happiness, you’re not looking for happiness and by the way, nobody
else can make you happy. While an amazing partner, a great career, a wonderful kid
will enhance your happiness, if you give that to someone else, my partner’s gonna make me happy, having a baby’s gonna make me happy, having a great job where I get recognised
gonna make me happy, getting praise gonna make me happy. You know what you’re doing? You’re giving someone
else the responsibility to make you happy. And if you say to them, “Here you go, “you make me happy.” That will work for awhile, but then, you know what you’re giving them? You’re giving ’em power
to make you unhappy. I want a little baby to
be happy and I got it, but now that baby is
a 14 year old teenager that doesn’t even want to speak to me. People will say, “Oh, you know,
you make me feel amazing.” And then the other side of
that, did you make me feel so angry and so lonely and so unimportant. Don’t give your power to
be happy to anyone else. It’s up to you. And don’t wait to be happy. Choose to be happy right
now, in the moment. I mean, look at little children. The rain makes them happy. A puddle makes them happy. Everything makes them happy
’cause they live in the moment. Happiness is an inside job. Go inside you, live in the moment I promise you, if you make a decision I’m gonna be happy right now, no matter what, in everything I do, you’ll train your mind to be happy. And here’s another great thing that I find really works to be happy. When you wake up in the morning, start going, “Wow, this tea is amazing. “This coffee is sensational. “I love the smell of this shower gel. “I love the sheets. “I love waking up.” I had to make myself do this and it completely changed my life. I wake up and go, “I love my life. “I love being here.” My first coffee, I go,
“I love this coffee. “I love my sheets. “I love everything.” And that’s not really true, but if you can make your mind
be happy with little wins, every time you eat
something, it’s sensational. Make a phone call, go, “This is great. “I’m reading. “I’m watching my favourite show. “This is amazing.” When you sit down at the end of the day to watch Netflix, go, “This is amazing. “This is wonderful.” You’re training your mind to
celebrate tiny little things, and when you get big things, every day feels like Christmas. So if you want to be
happy, live in the moment. Keep telling yourself the tiniest little thing makes you happy because that’s what children do. And do not ever give your response with you be happy to someone else. I’ll be happy when. I’ll be happy when I’m rich. When I look good. When I’m thinner. When I’m married. ‘Cause I work with people who
are rich, they’re married, and millionaires. You know what? They’re miserable. I remember going to somebody’s wedding, a very dear friend of mine, and she was so stressed about
making this wedding perfect that she forgot to enjoy it. I know my daughter’s first
birthday was a great event, and I forgot to take a single picture ’cause I was so busy
making sure she was happy and everyone else was happy. The next day I had to restage this party just to take the photos. Happiness is being in the moment. Living in the moment. And sometimes I go to
events and I watch people, and they’re so busy filming it that they’re not in it. They’re no longer in the moment. They’re no longer enjoying a coffee. Or a lunch. Or a concert. ‘Cause they’re filming it
instead of being in it. And there’s nothing wrong with filming it, but when you finished your filming, put the camera down, be in the moment. The moment is all you ever have. Live in the moment. So let me summarise for you. You’re not going anywhere to be happy. Happiness is not out there. It’s here, right now, this moment, and you can choose to be happy. And I promise you, this sentence will change your whole life if you say it every day. I’m choosing to be happy. Choosing to live in the moment. I’m choosing to always find happiness. I’m not looking for it, but I’m finding it ’cause it’s all around me. So remember, there is no
destination called Happiness. Happiness is an inside job. Choose to be happy. Never give your power to
be happy to someone else, ’cause if you give them the
power to make you happy, you know what you’re giving them? Of course, the power to later make you unhappy. Live in the moment,
celebrate every small win. Teach your mind to be happy and then your mind will
start to feed it back to you without you even noticing
and you’ll start to notice that you are happy all the time. Go ahead and make some comments below about the things that
already make you happy. So, other people think, “Oh yeah, “I could do that. “I never thought I could just do that, “and then I would be happy.” And remember, if you talk to a kid,
what makes you happy? They go, “The rain, the wind.” When I was in Africa, I asked
somebody what made them happy. They said, “The sun, the
dark, the light, the cold, “the heat, the beach, the sea.” ‘Cause they naturally do that. They live in the moment. Live in the moment, choose to be happy. Remember that sentence you’re gonna say. Every day I’m choosing to be happy. I’m choosing to be happy right now. There’re lots of people that would benefit the same
way you’re going to benefit, so please share this
with anyone who’s looking to change their life, uplevel their life, feel better about themselves. Subscribe because I can
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that you really want to be. Thanks for tuning in.


100 Responses

  1. Marisa Peer

    August 14, 2019 3:34 pm

    Learning how to be happy is essential to being confident and having high self-esteem. When you feel happy and can create happiness, you naturally become more attractive. To learn more about how to radiate this feeling of confidence, please click here: http://bit.ly/2TGJnLr

  2. Farheen Khan

    October 25, 2019 11:46 am

    You change my life Marisa …you made me to leave my 15 yrs old habit just by a small change' I am enough'
    Em so greatful that we have such soul in our universe

  3. Maureend Donovan

    October 26, 2019 12:14 am

    wow u are amazing, what a beautiful awesum women u are thank u so much for helping others around the world, god bless you, we all love you

  4. Sandi Bubbles

    October 26, 2019 11:24 am

    I love this thank you….I am going to do my best to follow these simple 3 steps into being, to help me move forward to a new beginning to the rest of my life. I love listening to you….you can really change lives…you WILL change mine ❤ x

  5. Happyclassygirly

    October 26, 2019 9:30 pm

    Just listening to this makes me happy 😊 but my favorite thing is watching a beautiful sunset with violin music in the background! Thanks Marissa you’re awesome!

  6. Lily Val

    October 28, 2019 12:12 am

    Omg so true. I need to do this!Happy on my way to being better, healthier in all areas. Happy all over. I like you very much lady, love your voice & accent ! Love & appreciate what you have to offer !

  7. Yazmin Elle

    October 28, 2019 6:33 pm

    You can choose everyday to Be grateful for what you have ! 🙏Or
    unhappy for what you don't have ! 😫

  8. Andreas Leon Landgren

    October 29, 2019 8:16 am

    I have the responsibility to make me happy. I do not give away this power.

    If someone tries to make you responsible for their happiness leave them.

    I love my life and this day. I love the sun.

    Its just as much how you view something as the actual thing you are in.

  9. Duet Chu

    October 30, 2019 1:24 am

    What a great lady full of wisdom & elegance!! Thank you for sharing the true recipe for happiness – it’s not where we’re going, because from RIGHT NOW I AM CHOOSING to be happy! ❤️❤️ I am under a stressful period about career promotion and after listening to your talk I can sense tremendous change in my body & feeling lighter, freer and simply happier! I would love to let u know how much those great talks really mean to me, as a young girl in her early career stage , and thank you again sincerely!🙏

  10. DeAnna Rodriguez

    October 31, 2019 2:59 am

    Listening to Marisa reminds me – I'm happy❣

    And thank you
    @Regine Brady for the highlights✌


    November 3, 2019 2:50 am

    Por favor traduzcan todo lo de esta grandiosa mujer 👩🏻 nos puede ayudar mucho a todos

  12. sherryl Longacre

    November 6, 2019 10:50 pm

    I have to say that having my children ask me my opinion or when they lean on me for guidance gives me a happiness that I can't describe. It's obvious that this isn't something that I can buy. They are my loves in life and nothing can compare.

  13. Madina Shakirovna

    November 8, 2019 6:25 am

    Hello. I am looking forward every your new video from you. Because it has amazing influence to my life. Thank you so much.

  14. tinku bonik

    November 9, 2019 2:59 am

    The feeling that I m love and I m life makes me happy …knowing that every moment god and my darling angel…the cosmic energy is working to ensure my life is happy and full of life makes me immensely happy

  15. LavenderplusRoses

    November 10, 2019 8:18 am

    So so so so so so so right! The two things that hit home for me: don't postpone happiness (in my case, I'll be happy when my job gets less stressful and I have more free time) and celebrate the small wins… Yes, no need for big things to happen. There are little nice things every day like a nice tea, a delicious meal, the few minutes you stretched or did some exercise… THANK YOU!

  16. Diana Maurer

    November 10, 2019 11:46 am

    I desperately want to be happy. I work really hard on being grateful everyday, but I am currently packing to move out of my home. My husband has been very difficult during our divorce and I felt like I didn’t have a choice. It’s devastating. My teens are having their own issues. We are all in turmoil, and I recently had to place my mother with dementia in a nursing home. I feel like the people I counted on to give me support while I am struggling are gone. I have a job which is filled with not the nicest people. The work is also not satisfying in any way. The attorney fees keep piling and my savings continue to dwindle. I see a therapist every week which I won’t be able to afford soon, and although I am proactive about my life, I am starting to feel hopeless and incredibly sad and alone. It’s a horrible feeling.

  17. solasnova

    November 10, 2019 5:19 pm

    Videos like this one make me happy.
    Realizations make me happy.
    Music makes me happy.
    The hammock makes me happy.
    Freedom makes me happy.
    The feeling to grow makes me happy.
    Plants make me happy.
    Good friends make me happy.
    Feeling accomplished makes me happy.
    Learning to plan my time well makes me happy.
    Being better than I was yesterday makes me happy.
    Trying new things makes me happy.
    Being in a new way makes me happy.

  18. Cecilia Komosinski

    November 11, 2019 9:58 pm

    Such simple messages but profound! Thank you Marissa for mentoring us by sharing your insights and experience! One question I have though is that when you are appreciating the moment you are accepting what is …but how can we chAnge the things we don’t appreciate?

  19. sidra ahmed

    November 12, 2019 6:32 am

    I love your videos , they’re so helpful and make me see reality immediately. I also love your talking style , it’s very calming as well!

  20. Hilde Epp

    November 13, 2019 10:28 am

    Thank you dear Marisa. I am grateful that your happiness message reached me at a moment in my life when I needed to be reminded of this.

  21. Jamsheed Begum

    November 14, 2019 4:46 am


  22. Lina Pola

    November 14, 2019 8:32 pm

    I started watching your videos yesterday after a masterclass from Mindvalley, and believe me, since yesterday, not only I am Enough, but I feel much happier!!!! Thank you soooo much for being who you are and giving us so much. You are a wonderful human being!!!

  23. G Kotarski

    November 15, 2019 12:02 am

    Great! No need to read all those books or listen to anymore presentations. Just decide to be happy. Solves everything!

  24. izabeau1953

    November 15, 2019 11:56 am

    I always look forward to happiness , like going to see the fire works. Then my husband makes sure he upsets all of us with his little tantrims. He take the pleasure out of everything . I need lots of therapy . Wish I knew these things years ago.

  25. Ingeborg

    November 15, 2019 3:45 pm

    I have been depressed for years, and I would like to add that food is also important to go with a healthy mindset

  26. Laila Nazari

    November 16, 2019 4:46 am

    Hello my dear I watch ur video u make me happy happy I’m happy girl watching ur video I than k u so much

  27. safiya amir

    November 16, 2019 5:44 am

    I listen this video every morning it change my life. Im greatful marisa i consider u my teacher n coach. Love u

  28. SAM MOYA

    November 16, 2019 3:00 pm

    Christmas makes me happy, watching videos that make me feel better, make me happy, doing something for me, makes me happy

  29. Joy Overley

    November 16, 2019 5:04 pm

    In the beginning of a divorce, 2 months of grieving hard, now I am experiencing happiness at times in each day. I love that I get to choose to be joyful or happy. Thank you Marisa!

  30. Nour Kade

    November 17, 2019 8:54 am

    Marisa..love to be with you..you make me feel happy..love you good woman.
    Yes!!To be happy is inside me..so is my responsibility..and I switch to be happy NOW!!

  31. AVERYCK77

    November 17, 2019 12:01 pm

    Hi from Paris, I am so happy to speak English fluently and so greatful to myself for having been able to find the energy to find your videos. There are a really strong support in my attempts to leave my narcissistic partner. I know understand how my mind will listen to me for sure eventually. I am not the piece of s… he wants me to think I am. I am lovable and nice and kind and I will do me very best to move forward. Thanks Marissa for sharing your videos

  32. Mida Murdock

    November 18, 2019 4:18 pm

    You’re Awesome! Thank you 🙏 I really like listening to your videos and they help me a lot!! God bless you

  33. Baby Doll

    November 18, 2019 4:28 pm

    I am taking anti stress for 7 years i cant sleep without taking that pills please can you help me what can i do to leave these pills.?please i begg you

  34. Flower power

    November 19, 2019 9:15 am

    I am watching this in bed and I really love how cozy and warm I feel. I also love my daily morning coffee.

  35. Damian D.

    November 20, 2019 11:09 pm

    I'm breathing. I'm alive and I live in a country where human rights are being respected. I couldn't be happier.

  36. Damian D.

    November 20, 2019 11:13 pm

    Being thankful makes me happy ALL the time. I am incredibly thankful for everything good that ever happened to me. This is a great power to deal with bad people and bad times.


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