Adam Ruins Everything – Why Some Mantras Can Make You Feel Worse (Everyday Ruins) | truTV


Nobody finds my facts annoying. Nobody finds my facts annoying. Nobody finds my facts annoying. You know, no matter how much
I repeat it, I can’t shake the fear
that it’s not true. And that’s because mantras
are often a pretty bad way to boost your self-esteem. Yes, while those New Age phrases
your life coach tells you to repeat
can be helpful for some people, studies show that for others,
they do nothing or even backfire
and make them feel worse. In fact, if you’re repeating
a wide-sweeping mantra of something aspirational, like
“I’m well-liked by everybody,” it can sometimes convince you
of the opposite… because it triggers your brain to think
of contradictory examples. Moderate statements like
“I’m well-liked by my turtles” don’t arouse as many
contradictory thoughts. So if you want to repeat
statements to yourself, try to focus on statements
you mostly believe to be true, like “This mantra
might not help me that much.” Or “I am great at
repeating words to myself while staring at a mirror.” ‘Cause that’s true. ♪♪


100 Responses

  1. Allison E

    September 6, 2018 5:09 pm

    Adam. Love your stuff buy why are your videos so short lately? I would love to see you go more in depth more often.

  2. PFT Burchell

    September 6, 2018 6:02 pm

    Its probably because some of your videos are full of falsehoods or manipulation of the truth to fit a narrative.

  3. trickle up

    September 7, 2018 5:03 pm

    I know these as Affirmations. And they DO work if you're at least half-way functional socially. By brushing off the few bad examples, you're less distracted by your cringey past in social situations, and so you "perform" better socially, which leads to less cringey moments. But if you have way more cringey incidents per day than "normal" incidents then drawing attention to it just makes things worse. Affirmations really well for me but they made things worse for my brother-in-law who is an incel by all accounts.

  4. BeanBag343

    September 10, 2018 11:52 am

    Aahh I'm soooo excited for a new season!! If it helps you feel better Adam, I didn't find a single episode of your show to be annoying! I love all of them!

  5. Zedfinite

    September 13, 2018 6:32 am

    How Adam ruins anime:

    1. A lot of anime today aren't really made in Japan but outsourced to other countries like China and South Korea.

    2. A lot of animators making anime are overworked and underpaid.

    3. Anime veterans such as Hayao Miyazaki are concerned about the current state of the anime industry.

  6. Shekhar Kumar

    September 14, 2018 7:29 am

    Wake up in the morning, sit down and close your eyes. Take deep breadth and say ooooommmmmmmmm 2-3 times in a minute.. deeply inhale and exhale. Do this for a minute and that's pretty much it. This is the basic of mantra. Mantra is a recitation to concentrate your mind in it's inner-self. It's not a narcissist or optimistic repetitions.

  7. T SexyRexy

    September 19, 2018 4:59 am

    If you wanna boost your self esteem, exercise 30 minutes a day, eat healthy, bathe/groom yourself, or if it's a more complex mental issue, get help.

  8. Dantillosos

    September 19, 2018 1:19 pm

    Hey. Jokes on you. I wake up every morning, looking in the mirror like: you are the laziest piece of trash i know. What are you ever gonna achieve in life?
    This honesty keeps me going every day.

  9. Kyle Letourneau

    September 19, 2018 5:24 pm

    When I went to the university of Waterloo one of my psych professors Joanne Wood did research on this very thing. Her research said that these things work really well for people with high self esteem who are having a bad time but people with low self esteem will say these things and they will just think about how they don't really believe it. She said that for publishing her results she got death threats from self help book authors

  10. Hamer51

    September 19, 2018 8:07 pm

    When’s the new season coming out as much as. I liked reanimated history I’m hoping it’s not the permanent Adam ruins everything

  11. Whole Food Plant-Based Man

    September 20, 2018 3:26 am

    What the hell happened to this show? Has he given up on ruining? I’m still waiting for the episode of Adam or Emily ruining meat because there is absolutely no need to be eating meat in the modern day.

  12. LattyPink

    September 20, 2018 3:47 am

    I just repeat “think positive”. It’s when I realize I’m going down my rabbit hole. Whether it be about me or when I start thinking about people or things that aren’t right. It’s ok so far.

  13. Storm Smith

    September 20, 2018 12:30 pm

    I don't like the advise in the end steering completely away from the method. He mentioned himself that moderate claims don't spur contradiction. So a better approach would be to treat this in the same manner as healthy goal setting. Start with a small improvement for the self esteem, and only once the boost is embedded and felt to be real move to a more aspiring affirmation.

  14. Nolwazi Monique LaRue

    September 20, 2018 1:39 pm

    For a guy that has built a career out of research, the failure to bother to learn the distinction between a mantra and an affirmation is both lazy and a bit racist. Mantra is a Sanskrit term that describes very intentional utterances that are used for sacred purposes. Everything about them is deliberate.

  15. Ro Nin

    September 20, 2018 1:51 pm

    as a yogi, mantras work. but it should be given by a Guru, not by life coach or something you read on the internet. positive reinforcement, like the topic discussed by adam, is not same as a mantra. repeating positive reinforcement for like 10 times for a lifetime of negativity is not going to work. more research adam, please contact yoga associations (not those who treat as something physical but spiritual aspirants). many are available in the US.

  16. Reginald Uy

    September 20, 2018 5:59 pm

    Mantras work best when you already at least mostly buy what you're repeating to yourself.

    This sounds useless at first, but say you already believe every second should count. Repeating it will make it stick in your mind, so it will come to you when you're NOT making seconds count.

  17. Felipe Carvalho

    September 21, 2018 9:04 am

    Hmmm. Bad Adam. There are scumbags, but also there are real ancient mantras and folks that help.
    Yes, must be simple, or even in another language. Real mantras are not for "morale boosting phrases", but just for mind clensing and inner peace.

  18. francois dinauto

    September 21, 2018 1:13 pm

    Me: "Everyone likes me, Everyone Likes me, Everyone likes me"
    My Brain: Remember that one time when you said hi and the girl said "Get away from me, you creep"
    Me: "Nobody likes me, Nobody likes me, Nobody likes me"

  19. Noel Wilson

    September 21, 2018 4:55 pm

    All my mantras are basically the same. Doing this or that feels good. Exercising feels good. Doing chores feels good. Working feels good. It's nice to remind myself that the things I often perceive as tedious or boring are often the things that when completed give me the most satisfaction. Procrastination always feels bad.

  20. Eric Ascher-Nette

    September 21, 2018 9:27 pm

    A lot of people use them in endurance sports successfully though. Very different application for very different reasons, but trust me, marathon is a mental game. I keep inspirational music on hand to push through the pain with several affirming thoughts/phrases to tell myself that I can do this.

  21. azad amitoz

    September 22, 2018 7:32 am

    that is why westerners chant Sanskrit mantras because they do not understand it at first place! Vibration is more important than sound!

  22. Fitz Wick

    September 23, 2018 4:57 pm

    honestly I didn't know those mantras existed. I've never encountered those types of mantras or such use of them. The mantras I've seen are all goals to aspire to, or to ease ones anxiety of the self. Not blatant contradictive lies to the self.

  23. Ravenofthedog

    September 25, 2018 6:52 pm

    My mantra is “I won’t die today in fact I will have a long life”.
    Being a fat death phobia sufferer is fun.😅

  24. dnp713

    October 17, 2018 12:32 am

    I get so tired of people who use platitudes to try and make others feel better. Ex: everything will work out in the end. Oh, okay, but I can't pay rent or insurance and I might be homeless, please explain how that is suppose to help. But repeating, I will go to jail if I kill someone dies seem to distract me a little.

  25. Swanson Skull Talk

    February 9, 2019 1:16 pm

    That's why hard mantras came into play with you can't do it or it's impossible. The brain thinks in contradictory making you do it still


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