Having Multiple Partners – What’s the Problem? – Sadhguru


If that becomes a social norm, then how do you
decide somebody has… whatever, multiple wives? And how do you decide somebody has no wife? You’re opening up your memory body… This will cause a whole lot of turmoil within the system. Questioner: Sadhguru, my next question for you is – why can’t one husband be with multiple women, and one woman or a wife can’t be with multiple
husband in today’s society among consenting adults? And what impact do these people have
when they involve in such relationships? Sadhguru: See… Body is the front end
for every other creature on this planet. The only reason this creature is dominating this
planet is not because we have the best body! You are not comparable to an elephant,
or a tiger, or anything for that matter. You’re not even as good as a buffalo. (Laughter) Yes. In terms of strength and physical
prowess, you are nowhere comparable. This is dominant because of its intelligence,
this is dominant because of its consciousness. But right now, we are creating a world
where your biology is the front end of your life. These things were done at a certain time
when the social situations were such. Or men were married to many more…
– I mean more than one woman. This was mainly because men
died more often than women. Today, both man and woman are outside
both may get killed, that’s different. But at that time, largely women stayed home
because she was continuously pregnant. From the age to fourteen to forty-five,
fifty, she is almost all the time – either she is pregnant or she has a young child. This is how life used to be. So because of that, she stayed home and she took
care of the property and the agriculture and stuff. Man went out to do business, or for
war, or something else, he went out. So men always died more often. So generally in most societies in the past, the number
of men was much less than the number of women. Always. This has been the state all across the world. So naturally when so many women were there, they
needed care and they needed support in the society. And those days, a woman could not exist by herself
– unless she is protected by a male partner – it would be very difficult for her to exist by herself, because she would be exploited
in so many different ways. So always they attach themselves. So naturally a man ended up having two, three
women because the population ratio was like that. But now largely it’s leveled out. If that becomes a social norm, then how do you
decide somebody has… whatever, multiple wives? And how do you decide somebody has no wife? This will become a social… you
know, collision it will become! It will become lot of problems in the
society, because we may act civilized… – I’m very particular, I’m very clear about saying – we act civilized. But when we are denied basic things that we need, all our civilization evaporates
and we will behave like animals. Yes or no?
Audience: Yes! Sadhguru: So, when fundamentals are
denied, people will go (Gesture) clashing. So that’s not going to work in today’s world. And above all, the woman’s
condition will become very bad. If you’re asking this question in a more existential way… Well… See… This is a certain framework, not
just of bone and muscle and flesh, there is a certain energy framework. Only because of that it takes on a certain form. See, if you eat mangoes everyday and
let’s say a cow eats mangoes everyday, at some point will you or the cow get confused
whether you are a cow or a human being? Or will the cow get confused? Such a thing never happens because there is clear-cut
inner framework, to which flesh and blood is added. But there is a framework, an evolutionary memory
framework is there, it never gets broken isn’t it? So in this framework, how
strong you keep this framework, how much integrity is there to this energy
framework will determine many things about your life, many aspects of your life. Especially if you want to raise this life to another level of
function, it’s very important you maintain this integrity. This is why, irrespective of which
religion, which spiritual process, if people want to raise them till to a certain point, first thing they will talk about is becoming
Monks, or Brahmacharis, or Sanyasis, because the idea is to create such a level
of integrity that this is a whole life by itself, that it doesn’t lean on anything else for support. Either for physical well-being or emotional
well-being or psychological companionship, it doesn’t lean on anything, it stands by itself
because you want to take it somewhere else. If you want normal function,
these things are not necessary. Now you want to become a rocket which
breaks through a certain dimension of space. Now you need to be in a different level of
force and integrity, otherwise it’ll crack up. So you don’t want to open your body to anything, and especially opening to multiple partners
has its own negativity in that context. How much pain and… you look at Draupadi’s life. How much volatility, how much pain, how
much suffering she went through in her life. And how much pain and suffering she caused
because of her anger and jealousy and whatever else. So, these things happen for variety of reasons
you can’t blame everything on that one aspect. But that aspect also has a say in these aspects
because you’re opening up your memory body, your energetic body, which is essentially
ruled by memory, to variety of memories. This will cause a whole lot of turmoil within the system
which could affect that life and many other lives. So Draupadi’s life is in a way a sample for that. It’s not an absolute. This is not an absolute but this has an influence.


100 Responses

  1. ShivaShaktification

    December 24, 2018 4:41 am

    one must carefully , intelligently, and rationally consider all possible outcomes that follow from a particular path taken in life, both positive and negative, and come to a rational decision about how to life the life that makes personal sense to them. When taking less common paths in life that most people don't choose, the ability to foresee all possible outcomes becomes exceedingly difficult (because of lack of living examples to draw from), and therefore, should never be taken lightly. The worst case scenario must always be considered, and that takes courage to envision. the important thing is to never behave like a victim and blame others, but to live with the consequences of your choices courageously and with full personal responsibility for whatever you choose.

  2. r v

    December 24, 2018 4:47 am

    Terna naam maine liyaah hai wahan mujhe yaad tunay kiye yahan bade zor ki aaj barsaat hai bzkabh mere paas hai tuuuu mere saath hai

  3. Lynn Bjorn

    December 24, 2018 6:50 am

    Its all in our mind coz we judged ourselves and others… we lost our innocence coz we judged too much.. in this reality now.. there’s no right or wrong base in your higher consciousness of unconditional divine love.. if you think you need to have multiple lovers… no one judges you coz we don’t know the story behind it.. remember your heart field is unlimited… giving unconditional love is healing, just be present to the person you meet and give your all advice from the heart.. by then we all connected by our hearts and we dnt need to sleep with them.. sometimes we need to be close to someone that needed our presence coz they want us to heal them… marriage is not about having a paper i Church… it’s about connecting out hearts together coz we want to heal each other.. remember brothers and sisters, you’re all unlimited…and multidimensional being…💚🙏

  4. ram suresh

    December 24, 2018 7:49 am

    We were meant to get smarter by the day…but people seem to get more n more dumb as time progresses…how sad !

  5. soumyajit paikray

    December 24, 2018 3:21 pm

    I could see sadhguru choosing his words very carefully not to drag any unwanted arguments from the feminists.

  6. Prasanna

    December 24, 2018 5:21 pm

    I am very glad that it was pointed out how humans "act" civilised (3:05). There is a gigantic difference between 'acting' civilised and truly being civilised when it comes to disagreeing with other people and being constructive about it. Acting just avoids the problem instead of giving way for any opportunity to solve it.

  7. Bukhory Ashwin

    December 24, 2018 5:25 pm

    Fucking falun this mf…. does not know he talks liked a cloned alien…well they tagged God as alien…he seems to have been fed by my afro but yet he decided love the same way he deems good to advocate…

  8. Geraldine Clark

    December 24, 2018 9:27 pm

    What the problem is that we have a soulmate a man for a woman but they who the study people went against what I said back in the day and told me we see about that now you see what happen to marriage relattionship they don't work I an living proof just to make you commit audthley now what the world happen with the ones who took the bides.


    December 24, 2018 10:09 pm

    Sometime the Devine Force or karmic events puts people in paths at tried and contemplative moments, and shake things, however mindfully sorting out and being forthright and doing the right thing and creating a harmonious solution and remain civil; sometimes more than civil to a point of divinity exposed (sorting out emotionally prior to physicality). Many couples live not true to their happiness and better move on and remain as family. In this situ, the public should never interfere or judge! It is not their business, in today’s. context they go way out of their way to interfere, even after couples have sorted out and moved on ! What matters to both is themselves for their happiness, then leveling with family and closest friends.

  10. TheYoyozo

    December 26, 2018 11:53 pm

    His term, “memory body” so succinctly identifies the issue of multiple relationships. Truly he has deeply understood the human condition on this topic.

  11. Base Blazer Covebase Dolly

    December 27, 2018 3:00 am

    When he said, so you want to be a rocket and it breaks through in space. I thought he was going to say firament. He doesn't want to go against the social grain of Western lies about the shape of the planet. We are on a realm. Not a ball earth.

  12. Kopronko

    January 2, 2019 1:46 am


  13. Geraldine Clark

    January 2, 2019 9:42 pm

    Creator ? Where the bible read do not mess with and I know when you feel something down there a soulmate is during something somewhere else and making his soulmate suffer

  14. Pat Hacker

    January 6, 2019 6:37 pm

    This is dominant because we've developed killing tools and invested in their development. I am not sure it should remain so for that reason alone.

  15. Travel Cope

    January 12, 2019 7:18 pm

    Better to sterilize both the genders just the way like for pigs & dogs are done.

    The more the intelligence evolves the more disaster we create.

  16. S. kalaiselvan

    March 30, 2019 1:52 pm

    carefully observe all womens face reaction after gurugee explained about the obstacles of Droupathi's life…
    I hope all womens in this meeting is squril biten mangoes…..

  17. Hyd. Int. Personal Development Proprietary Club

    April 10, 2019 2:30 am

    Sadguru answers instantly, he has oceanfull of knowledge,his English is excellent and expresses everything nicely.

  18. Evan West

    April 11, 2019 5:33 pm

    I guess this doesn't pertain to me..I don't sleep with anyone..Do not trust anyone…Yet this same guy lectures on not waisting semen during masturbation but rather risk disease to make babies..ESTABLISH A POSITION AND STICK TO IT GUY…

  19. Pranav Pratik

    April 22, 2019 4:11 pm



  20. Amit Srivastava

    May 10, 2019 2:57 pm

    Female cuttlefish can mate with, like, a ton of dudes over the course of the mating season and store all their sperm in her arms then when she goes to fertilize her eggs she picks who she liked the best.

  21. Josh Austin

    May 18, 2019 8:18 am

    What does Sadhguru want to evolve into? Physically. Presuming the mangos will never turn him into a cow

  22. Jordan Allen

    May 24, 2019 12:36 am

    Contact Mr James : +12678773020 for all Hacking services. He is the best as I was satisfied with what he gave me. My wife is a big cheat.

  23. Srinidhi ಶ್ರೀ

    May 24, 2019 6:47 am

    ♥️ ನಮಸ್ಕಾರಗಳು ಸದ್ಗುರು ಅವರೇ 🙏
    🙏 Namaskaaram sadhguru ♥️

  24. GirlsLikeFairies

    May 28, 2019 8:05 pm

    He's right. But he seems a little triggered by the thought of women being with multiple partners. In any case being with multiple partners is not right. Not even for a man. I mean it's okay if they can handle n don't have anything spiritual to do with life.. But seriously if someone wants some integrity n soul evolution they mustn't involve with a lot of people. What i hate the most is this twin flame thing going on on the internet. You really shouldn't be with a twin flame just for the heck of it or for a life purpose or soul contract. You don't have to become one with anyone you don't like because it decides what happens with your soul i guess in the spiritual.

  25. Jay J

    May 31, 2019 7:23 am

    They enter darkness those who worship natural things (for e.g. air, water, fire, etc.). They sink deeper in darkness those who worship sambhuti i.e. created things. (Yajurved 40:9)

    Isovasa upanishad, Kado upanishads – tells-"ISWAR" is ATHMA . Not dwell on IDOLS/Human made Temples. IDOL WORSHIP – is the biggest sin. It destroys People. But In India full of idolic negative spirits . Where is the error?

  26. Eduarda Marques

    June 5, 2019 6:23 pm

    Thank you for the enlightening background story. I did not know the reason why a man had several wifes in the past. Thank you.

  27. Ohm Neh

    June 7, 2019 5:58 pm

    Nothing lasts forever.
    Modern civilization is coming to an end, and we'll be back to where we were centuries ago.

  28. Fermin Garrick

    June 11, 2019 5:23 pm

    My goodness…another point of view…never explained in a spiritual way….knowledge is life. …a peace full life.

  29. Lalit Mukhiya

    June 15, 2019 9:39 pm



    June 16, 2019 3:49 am

    That's him multiple women in bed today for Fathers Day. His balls hurt. Walking like he old.

  31. Bill Jack

    June 18, 2019 6:03 am

    Ppl were just going back to uncivilized society- bit just use & say freedom, liberty etc .


  32. Joe Smoke

    July 11, 2019 9:50 pm

    A great Master knows everything is an illusion, but acts according to so called tragedy. This guy needs to stop seeking fame and know that all works out fine in the end.

  33. mohammad sagar

    July 17, 2019 4:09 am

    He cleverly avoided demystifying lines between multiple wives and multiple husband. By saying about dropati he indirectly said multiple husbands are dangerous and multiple wives are optional.

  34. Eddy b

    July 25, 2019 2:27 am

    The f*** is this guy talking about throwPatty was forced to get married to all of them it was the mother's idea and these people just agree don't just agree question why is he saying this why is he using this sample there's reason for what he uses this

  35. Remo Rossi

    July 27, 2019 1:02 pm

    This man needs to think before he speaks his spiritually needs to be more less judgmental he says homosexuality is a choice my my he hast got a clue very disappointing filling people's mind with this information is not good

  36. Sathi Devi

    August 25, 2019 5:58 am

    These days variety is fashion.Even in marriage.Use & throw.If one can preserve virginity,best.Why to blame anybody?

  37. Goku Black

    September 4, 2019 8:02 pm

    "If you want to destroy any nation without war, make adultery or nudity common in the young generation" Salahdiin Ayyubi.

  38. Anui B

    September 10, 2019 5:17 am

    What is wrong with these people?
    You want to be with multiple partners go far off in a forest and live like animals.
    Don't expect society to accept your bullshit.
    Obviously you cannot be stopped from doing whatever you want but nobody will like you and accept you. Prepare to be treated like trash.
    I'm done with sick perverts trying to force us to believe they're right.

  39. Tomek

    September 17, 2019 9:14 am

    Each time we interact with each other we pass on energy to each other: good or bad. If we stay alone our energy level will be the same, and we can get to know ourselves. We see in others what we see in ourselves. I agree with Sadhguru.

  40. Tabula Rasa

    September 20, 2019 4:27 pm

    How do you cleanse your energy from another person's? And intimate partner's energy? Is it just celibacy? For how long? Or you can't, ever, once it becomes part of you?

  41. bahamut anima

    October 2, 2019 11:37 am

    Can anyone explain to me what was sadhguru saying, relating to the question, cos i dont get it.. hahahaha..


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