The Enlightened Ones say, “Don’t argue with reality.
Accept it gracefully.” Graceful acceptance. Like how when you get prasad, You feel, ‘It’s a great blessing that I got this.’
And then you have it. And you are perfectly fine. You don’t even ask for more, you don’t even complain,
you don’t even ask to change. Graceful acceptance
of whatever comes to you. Yes, sometimes you may feel, ‘What does it mean to accept everything?
Does it mean we just sit doing nothing?’ ‘Should we just keep enduring?’ In just accepting a situation
and not changing it, You will become dull, you will be passive, You will be considered foolish! ‘So much happened, and you didn’t do anything?’ No. The Enlightened Ones say, “Graceful acceptance is a very, very
mature responding to the situation.” While the former calls for strength and guts,
graceful acceptance calls for great valour. It’s a very mature response.
To fight is a very immature response. To cry is a very immature response. You will get only what you are worth it. So it’s better you accept it gracefully. See one thing you understand, Any result or any success or failure,
is dependent on 2 things, 1) An unknown factor
2) A known factor The known factor is your effort.
Whatever decision you took; How you worked that way. So, that is the known factor; You exactly know, ‘Whether
right or wrong, I am responsible for both.’ But this you know;
this is the seen factor; known factor. But there is one more
which is called unknown factor; Which we call karma. So the situation, the result, the achievement,
the success, the failure, Is not dependent only on the seen factor.
It is seen and unseen; Known and unknown factor.
So you have to give your best. In any decision you have to make,
or any task you have to perform; But you should know that
you have to learn to accept it, Because an unseen, unknown
factor is going to intervene. You may be your best, right? So, known factor and unknown factor.
Now, I’ll show you a trick here. When it comes to evaluating yourself,
see only the known factor. Suppose you’ve made a mistake,
see only the known factor; There is nothing like karma and all;
‘I should have seen this; I didn’t see it.’ ‘And so now I have to accept it.’ And when you are evaluating others,
see only the unknown factor. ‘They are very nice people, but
it didn’t work out because of the karma.’ But when you are evaluating yourself, Analysing the whole situation
and evaluating yourself, See only, ‘If I had taken the right decision,
I wouldn’t have suffered.’ Don’t use the word karma
for yourself. So this way, your likes and dislikes
will decrease considerably.