How to Get Your Life Together | Self Care Routine ✨


eep-eep eep-eep So many cleaning supplies are out. So many bags. More socks, more socks more socks. More cleaning supplies. Hey guys. It’s me. Whenever my apartment starts looking like this.. …well …so does my life. I’m a firm believer in how our living environment is a direct manifestation of our inner state. And I have been feeling all sorts of crazy So I made it a point this week to block out some me-time and to do more of what I know will help me relax, refocus, and regain that inner peace and calm. This is a little reminder for when life gets extra: Don’t forget to take care of yourself, Rowena! and for you who’s watching, you deserve it, girl! Whenever I’m feeling overwhelmed, disorganized, and disconnected, the very first thing I do is to tidy and clean. Trust me, it works! I find that as I’m performing mindless tasks like cleaning, my mind kind of just goes on autopilot and I start reflecting on the past week Thinking about things that I’ve been putting off and working through problems I’ve been struggling with. This time to myself really helps me clear my mind and achieve some degree of mental clarity. I read in an article that the environment with which we surround ourselves, both our physical environment and our personal comportment is a direct expression of dignity and self-respect. This is a great reminder that being busy shouldn’t come at the expense of being cluttered and disorganized. As soon as I fix up my space, I immediately feel lighter and more centered, and I wonder why I always put this off. After I clean up my surroundings, it’s time to start deciphering my codex of a brain and put pen to paper. When I find myself stuck or lost or paralyzed it’s usually because I start questioning and doubting myself, which leads to questioning and doubting my intentions and my progress and my existence, and yes, it’s a bit dramatic, which is why I need to sedate myself by way of brain-dumping my feelings onto a piece of paper, better known as journalling. This is how it usually goes: I write out my feelings, including anything and everything that’s bothering and wounding me. I ask myself why I’m feeling this way And I try to be as brutally honest with myself as I can. I then ask myself if what I’m worrying about is something I can change. If it is, I ask how can I change and improve and do better? If I can’t, I acknowledge the worry, thank it for helping me grow, and ask myself to gracefully let it go. There’s just something about writing out my thoughts and putting it on paper. It helps me sort through my thoughts, and I see things so much more clearly for what they are. It’s also a great way for me to reflect and to look inward to see where I’m falling short and how I can do better moving forward. Looking back at older entries written by Young Roe, AKA, young Rowena, helps a lot too. It gives me a lot of perspective, laughs for days, and reminds me of how far I’ve come. Next is one of those things that I know is really good for me, but I’m still not consistent with it on a daily basis. Which is something I hope to change. I’ve been waking up early for a few months now to meditate before work because we can all use a little more ‘woo sa’ in our lives and I like how it sets the tone for the rest of my day. So, on the days I decide to snooze for two hours and sleep in I definitely don’t feel as calm, composed and self-aware as I could be. Meditation to me is watching my thoughts, calming my mind, and carving out time for me to reconnect with myself. The form of meditation I do is part of my spiritual practice Falun Dafa Where I sit in full lotus for an hour while listening to this beautiful traditional melody. My mind should be empty and tranquil and I shouldn’t be thinking about anything. But even after two years this is something that I’m still working towards I’d say for a day where I feel super peaceful and grounded there are at least four days where there’s a tsunami swirling inside my head. But as with all things we do consistently, I do find the more I practice, the easier and more natural it becomes. Baby steps, right? If sitting for an hour isn’t your jam, there are so many different types of meditation and ways of meditating to look into. Like the app Headspace or even simple breathing exercises that I’ll link down below. Now that it’s sorted out my feelings, it’s time to start reincorporating some R&R and pampering back into my life. When the going gets rough and I get overwhelmed and busy the first thing to go out the window is usually self-care which results in me looking like a barefaced little dude with my hair in a bun 24/7. It’s the simple pleasures in life like washing my hair, doing my hair Tossing a bath bomb in the tub, using a clay mask followed by a sheet mask Doing my nails for once instead of cutting it super short. Taking care of yourself and your appearance is like taking care of your space It is a reflection of your inner state and a form of self-respect. Because it is so easy to get caught up in the busy trap, overwork ourselves, and spread ourselves too thin, It is so important to be kind and compassionate to ourselves and to do more of what makes us happy. Work, YouTube and my spiritual practice have been priority and the three pretty much consume my life, leaving little room for anything else. And Naturally, I burnt out. So here’s to balance and doing more of what keeps me sane and happy. I love reading business books and autobiographies of entrepreneurs and the world’s most brilliant minds. Reading about their stories, their journeys filled with success and failure and laughter and tears and happiness and joy and depression and darkest of times. It reminds me that we’re all human and with enough hard work, faith, and perseverance anything can happen. When I’m in need of a good laugh and a warm fuzzy hug, Crazy Stupid Love, Friends, and watching my childhood favorites always puts me in a good mood. Other than books and movies, I like to make more art and bake more and other than being a homebody I would love to do more exploratories of this beautiful city that I call home, that is New York City. The whole premise of this is to know what makes you happy, and to just do more of it. Anything that lights up your soul and makes you feel alive, do that. Go do it. Do it. Why not? Do it. And finally the last one is a short one but a powerful one. Smile more! I tend to go through my days with the resting face and let’s just say my natural resting face isn’t the happiest looking face. Studies have shown that faking a smile can actually improve your mood, especially when you’re stressed and in a bad mood. It’s from muscle memory playing tricks on your brain, and realizing how silly you look trying to force a smile. Because let’s be real, whatever it is that’s stressing you and I out, and that’s so incredibly overwhelming, It’s actually not that big of a deal once we step out of our heads. Everything will always be okay, and everything that happens in life is to either test or to help us become our best selves. There’s a chinese saying that goes “退一步海阔天空” – which translates to: “Once you take a step back, you’ll find that the seas and the sky is boundless.” And with that, thank you so much for watching. I would love to hear how you take care of yourself and how you have me dates. And I’ll see you guys next week, take care. Love you! Here’s an air hug! Local, audio airhug. Bye.


100 Responses

  1. danceclass1

    January 28, 2019 3:03 am

    I really love your channel and respect your success in getting up early daily and taking care of yourself. Just want to recommend a Buddhist master‘s teaching on mindfulness practice, Ashin Tejaniya of the Theravada tradition. this is considered the original Buddhism teaching and we are not trying to stop thinking completely but be aware of thinking and learn that thoughts are just thoughts. The app headspace is also good. For meditation practice if you are putting in a lot of effort, It is really important to make sure that your are following a path that is safe and will lead you to wisdom. Best wishes!

  2. who Iam

    February 4, 2019 9:07 pm

    I feel like doing my make-up in the morning is something really enjoyable and something I do for self-care. It's like meditation, a routine and it makes my mind shut up for once.
    Is it just me or does anyone else does this?

  3. Flint

    February 10, 2019 1:38 pm

    This here is not about me but a friend. As an unexpected event occured that really hit me, she offered me to visit her asap (even though it was 11pm) and we had a super fun weekend together. I went from a mental mess to being grounded again and I wanna thank you for that, Nell 💜 You had to learn for exams but you took me in and that was so lovely 🙇🏻‍♀️

  4. Bella Wahbeh

    February 11, 2019 3:09 am

    at 3:10, I remembered what i turned YouTube on for, calming instrumental music to play as I meditate. Instead, I'm laying on my yoga mat binging videos. Lol.

  5. Nachtfalter

    February 18, 2019 11:09 am

    Hey guys, I need some ideas. I love a clean environment and a made bed. But I feel that the sheets and the matress also need fresh air during the day, because we humans sweat in sleep. I hang them on my closet doors at the moment but that looks messy. Is there a solution for this?

  6. Taína V

    February 19, 2019 1:32 am

    I adore your channel so much. Over the past year my life has changed, some things for the better and some for the worse, but watching your videos reminds me that I am in control; I can do the things I want and be the person I want to be, regardless of what has happened. Thank you for starting your channel and creating such wonderful, genuine, and honest videos. You're the best! Much love ✌💓

  7. Faith Martin

    February 23, 2019 1:49 pm

    Did anyone else hear the voice crack when she said "you deserve it girl" haha. But I freaking love this😍🤯

  8. Anna Septem

    February 27, 2019 10:19 am

    What a wonderful voice! It's such a pleasure just to listen to you.
    After all, thank you very much for these tips. It helps.

  9. Milena Karla

    February 27, 2019 9:58 pm

    If only I had a house just for myself. I can't really have these quiet silent moments unless I leave the house… But can't relax outside because it's full of strangers. I don't know, I feel like I can't relax unless I'm by myself ALONE and I'm never alone so… But I'm saving this video for when I can actually enjoy doing these things.

  10. Brianna Thomas

    March 1, 2019 7:46 pm

    Where did you get the thing that you put your jeans in? Idk what it’s called lol but I LOVE it

  11. Su Diler

    March 5, 2019 7:05 pm

    wow you are an amazing human, i am shook by how similar we are. subscribed. Please keep being a beautiful soul

  12. Chad Bickett

    March 7, 2019 4:07 am

    Wow just wanted to say just frome watching this video you really inspired me and I go to a Chinese emergen school soo I think the Chinese is cool any way bye 😁😂

  13. Robin Stone

    March 7, 2019 10:34 pm

    Turn your journal 📔 to a book 📚 in get it publish. Falun Gong am more familiar with this name, thanFalun Dafa . P.s, 我在学习中文。 你几岁来美国,你的英文说的非常好。

  14. Perfect Peace Tai Chi

    March 14, 2019 2:47 am

    I clean up and bathe; I call it "wade in the water" with essential oils, candles and incense. I do tai chi and go for a hike or walk in nature. I also like to go to the museum or movie to change my mood. I use to journal and this was a good reminder of how it kept me sane, so I am going to get a new journal tomorrow and start officially again! I'm so ready though, so tonight, I'll practice on pad I already have. Peace, Love and Light! Jakini Auset

  15. Lady Mindpalace

    March 24, 2019 10:24 am

    I watched this video so many times now, it always helps me to get a. calmer and b. inspired and also motivated. Thank you!

  16. Indigo Rain

    March 26, 2019 8:35 pm

    This video soothed me✨Thanks for sharing I will definitely use these techniques🧘🏿‍♂️

  17. Charles John Agad

    April 2, 2019 12:38 pm

    That podcast interview with Aileen was so iconic. My favourite 💕 Sending you love from Philippines 🇵🇭

  18. Shylo Edinger

    April 5, 2019 9:24 pm

    Immediate subscribe, I love how you articulate your points, and I feel like this video is going to help me out of my self care slump, thankyou so much

  19. Desiree Messer

    April 6, 2019 7:53 pm

    This was sooo beautiful. I needed this so badly. Going through a major depression. Thanks sweetie.🤗💜🎀🌈

  20. Vero

    April 7, 2019 4:44 am

    Thank you so much for this video! It has really helped me remember I am human. Not everything is going to be perfect. Also, to always believe in myself. And to find what I love and do it more often. I like to have weekends to myself. On Saturdays I will going shopping almost all day. It is relaxing and gets my mind off of things. And I will have spa days where I will pamper myself. It is literally one of the best ways I calm myself and treat myself.

  21. Lavender Pinto

    April 19, 2019 4:59 pm

    Our environment "is a direct expression of dignity and self–respect" … Seems I'm lacking a little😅

  22. devi kolluru

    May 2, 2019 11:26 am

    Literally i got sick of how im living and decided to clean up like a minute ago the universe is- eye-

  23. Nasreen Hernandez

    May 3, 2019 11:59 am

    I love you and your contents Rowena! 🙂 I hope you are presently doing well~

  24. SUN light

    May 4, 2019 3:16 pm

    My room perfectly organized and me laying in my bed watching this and procrastinating

  25. agustina chandra

    May 19, 2019 1:45 pm

    hello rowena! i really really love your channel it kinda sooth my soul <3
    i am looking forward to see more this kind of video from you!

    just wanna know about your advice, rowena or any other subscriber who read this
    i am 23 years old just graduated and now im working as a banker in the biggest bank industry in my country and it is so hard to get in here, u have to go through pass 5 or 6 level until u get hired.I am thankfull that i got my dream job, then there's a nightmare inside it :(, i have a very shitty boss who treated me like i'm a trash :(.
    And you know i cried like every night before i go to sleep, because my heart is so broken, i feel like im useless, im not competent in this field
    and the hardest part is i have to smile in front of my parents because they were soooo proud of me because of this job

    but now i really broken inside, i searched any podcast any youtube video that can make me better but still… i still scared to wakeup in the morning, going to my shitty office, meet my shitty boss, ended up in bed feeling like shit
    seriously im tired of this cycle
    but if im out of this job, i feel like i dont know what to do, what am i supposed to tell my parents

    please help me :")

  26. Margarida Afonso

    May 31, 2019 12:02 am

    Thank you so much for all of your advises, tell me one thing, what is the programme that you use to edit your videos?

  27. happy little raincloud

    June 15, 2019 3:11 pm

    This is really helpful. After over a week or two of not really taking great care of myself or my surroundings i feel ready to get things back on track. Sometimes it’s hard to know where to start so things like this are a blessing 💫

  28. Angel shanaya

    June 26, 2019 9:06 am

    Thanks for sharing you have no idea how much you 've just helped to get out from problems😊

  29. Brianna Brown

    July 7, 2019 5:00 am

    I absolutely freaking love you. You make me cry with happiness and hope for my future. You make me realize i can freaking do anything. Thank you. You help beyond belief. Please never stop being you

  30. Billie’s Avocados

    July 17, 2019 3:44 am

    I like to clean, pamper, fo yoga, basically relax and calm myself at like 1:00am

  31. ImSelena

    July 26, 2019 11:58 pm

    Ok, but am I the only one that writes down like all of my routines(school,night,morning,skincare,ect) decorate it,FRAMES it, and hangs it on my wall nope just me…..ok.

  32. Marty Novotná

    July 28, 2019 7:14 am

    I just went through a hard breakup, so I need this soooo much! Thank you for the video! 🙂

  33. Audry Walsh

    July 31, 2019 5:45 pm

    Very nice video. And this might sound weird, but love your couch! Where you got it and what is the name?

  34. Keri Kaylin

    August 23, 2019 9:30 am

    Love this video♥️♥️♥️ and absolutely needed this in my life right now ! So glad it was in my recommendations♥️

  35. picassso thegrate

    August 26, 2019 11:42 pm

    DAT SMILE THO made my day. This video as a whole was super helpful and inspiring,THANKS A LOT and keep on smiling you beautiful you >.<

  36. Lindsay Love

    September 3, 2019 7:30 pm

    This is so helpful. Thank you❤️❤️❤️ just subbed to your channel. I hope you can support me too🙏


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