Narcissistic Parents/How to Deal With Going No Contact During the Holidays

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  1. Kathryn Nicholas

    June 17, 2018 2:45 pm

    Thanks Lisa…every time a troll pops up I wish the hurt could be addressed and then delete them. We learn from what trolls are really about

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  2. K B

    June 17, 2018 3:20 pm

    I love your hair like that Lisa, really suits you! Thanks for this video, I do not enjoy fathers days, nice to know I'm not alone 🙂

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  3. Roberta Crochet

    June 17, 2018 3:39 pm

    I was in tears at a therapists office after my mother took my son away from me after I had a breakdown and was told I’m feeling sorry for myself

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  4. mandy green

    June 17, 2018 3:57 pm

    Thanks dear Lisa, Amazing video!, fathers day is onley for the real if you know what i mean Lisa, i learned so much from you over the last year, all what it is programmed in me, im realy practicing everyday my old programmed believe's like your notting you look horible you will never have a nice future, you stink,and much more, this was al saying to me everyday by my parents, now i see them in a different light,they are sick narcistic people, and i broke the abuse cirkel al long time ago ,set myself free from them, it is still painfull to never had the feeling of a real loving mother and father, so yes i have suffer from atachment trauma,and codependency in the past, was insucure angst fear clinical depression over thinking things, still have this but it is getting better because i know now that it is all programmed in me as a yong child, now i have a good relationship whit myself i am my best friend and i want to thank you for that!

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  5. Jaclyn H

    June 17, 2018 3:59 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing what you share. You and everything you share is soooo deeply valuable. 💟 Last night I informed my father I could smell paint thinner right before bed, it was coming up through the vent into my room, not to mention the houe smelled of it. He quickly rolled his eyes at me and then said I'm sorry you are so super sensitive. I said well clearly my feelings do not matter to you. He said it doesn't smell. I said I must be hallucinating then right. This is not the first time he has said this to me when I express my feelings or thoughts. I have seriously low self esteem and can not even hold a job due to the fact I have even gotten these kinds of remarks at work, not all places, but it has served to make me more silent. He def has good qualities but he has never really been emotionally validating with me. He is not that kind of man. He is emotionally closed off. I have seen him cry once in my life for a few seconds and then he quickly said I will never see that side of him again. Whenever I have exposed my tender feelings I get looked at like I am over-exaggerating everything. How does one resolve that feeling of feeling invisible and unheard? <3

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  6. mandy green

    June 17, 2018 4:12 pm

    a father should be a real father who love's you and honer you and guid you to be a amazing and whole human being, so for me no fathers day

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  7. Ellen Hussem

    June 17, 2018 4:36 pm

    Thank you Lisa for the wonderful livestream! You rock girl with the gamer guy…👍😃💖

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  8. Julia M

    June 17, 2018 5:02 pm

    You are a beautiful vibrant woman and never let other people’s judgement effect how you feel .I got confirmation from you and others that no contact is a powerful tool in life.

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  9. anaїs lake

    June 17, 2018 5:20 pm

    you are so awesome. so glad you are here giving love and support. feels good thanks! also everyone the ai is a bazillion highest iq humans. we cannot compete with the bots. the bots leave comments!

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  10. Sandy Morton

    June 17, 2018 5:20 pm

    First off I want to tell you how beautiful you are and I can't believe your 5️⃣3️⃣, your skin is flawless and I need your tips😉. Second, thank you for taking the time to make this video for all of us trying to rise above the veil of consciousness. You have literally helped me change my life. I am finally for the first time in5️⃣4️⃣ years figuring out who I really am. Everything you say clicks with me and I appreciate you so much for sharing your life with us and helping us all truly be able to say to ourselves, I AM ENOUGH💯. Nameste Dear One❣️❣️❣️

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  11. Manuela Frey

    June 17, 2018 7:04 pm

    Thank you Lisa…you such a beautyful women and you look so young….much Love💕💕💕

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  12. Lauren King

    June 17, 2018 7:17 pm

    I broke down and cried a couple of times during this vid. Father's Day and my fathers birthday are the hardest days of the year for me. Thank you for this insightful video Lisa! I definitely did a little healing and realized some ways in which I could be treating myself better…starting now! <3

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  13. Eva Tarnawski

    June 17, 2018 7:20 pm

    At twenty minutes I foolishly tried to call my father. My mother managed to turn me into a hopeless & anxious woman. It's real. I need a break because I'm so vulnerable.

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  14. sandra perkins

    June 17, 2018 7:23 pm

    I loved my Father.But he was my narc Mothers Pit Bull.I was the oldest AND female.I was not seen,but I made myself heard.He died a slow painful death,cared for by her.She has re-married and rarely mentions him.But I feel he knows that what he did was wrong and needs to be forgiven.I am trying.

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  15. nycjanedoe

    June 17, 2018 7:30 pm

    I wish I could afford to work with you, Lisa. I feel like I would grow so quickly and deeply with your guidance. For now, I continue to do my own work (17 years and still going). You communicate so many validating and essential principles in this video regarding the brain, Law of Attraction and personal limitation, and the limits of medication. I could go on. Thank you for all that you do and share freely.

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  16. Michelle Monet

    June 17, 2018 8:19 pm

    Thanks SOO Much Lisa. I just got off the phone with my narcissistic dad. I felt detached and kept it 'light'. thankyou!!

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  17. 144000lightworker Andrea

    June 17, 2018 9:19 pm

    What a brilliant video, thanks for sharing your knowledge! I have terrible daddy issues so today has not been easy for me. I still have a lot of hurt and anger towards my dad and my grandfather. I was programmed with truama based mind control by both of them and I'm still trying to figure out how to reprogram my mind. Watching your videos has been my therapy. I know I'm suffering from cptsd and I'm triggered today. Watching this video brings back memories of my father calling me a slut, stupid and making fun of me for being bulimic. I still feel like I'm under suicide programming on days like today. I have literally experienced every single self destructive behavior that you mentioned plus some… obsessive cleaning, counting, drug addiction, cutting, suicidal thoughts, codependency, sexually acting out, anxiety and depression. How do you truly forgive someone who traumatized you? How do you stop attracting narcissist in your adulthood?

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  18. Big D

    June 17, 2018 9:41 pm

    Both my parents have cluster B personalities. The are not capable of love. I pretty much see myself as a orphan

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  19. liveng_proof

    June 17, 2018 9:48 pm

    Thank you so much for posting this Lisa❤️ My Dad is a narcissist and I have gone no contact for about 3 years, it’s hearing encouraging and loving words like this that being such comfort! So thank you!🙏🏼 I actually just bought “Loving What Is” by Byron Katie and it’s reminding me so much of what you’re talking about here🙌🏽 Namaste! Thank you for sharing your light with the world 💓

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  20. Coloryourworld Perspective_MH

    June 17, 2018 10:41 pm

    rest in peace chuck cox. my real father is spiritual. thanks lisa. no more medicating.

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  21. Liz W

    June 17, 2018 10:45 pm

    Thank you. I have been in recovery for a decade now but STILL hear my violently sadistic narc father calling women fat, old, ugly, stupid, etc. And women THREW themselves at him all of the time!!!! I carry so much body shame, hatred, self conciousness, embarrassment, etc still. I spent my whoooole 42 years trying to fit his idea of beauty, and I never could of course. I never measured up to his standards while I was in contact w him. But since I went NC my life has gotten sooooo much better, n now he plays the proud dad to other people!!!!! "Thats MY daughter!" Damn I wish I could push him into a freezing cold lake. It is sooooo hard. But I did separate. I just hope I can learn to love myself n my body sooner rather than later.

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  22. figuring it out

    June 17, 2018 11:57 pm

    on the topic of therapists telling clients that they should accept where they are in their recovery and "suck it up" , please don't accept this ! Human beings are ways learning, growing and changing, you can continue to grow stronger and find ways to deal with whatever it is that you struggle with. Love that you mentioned working out too, I have learned the mental benefits of regular workouts, it has taught me that I am stronger than I think I am, that I have to be the one to push myself forward in life and most importantly that I can overcome that negative inner critic and be disciplined and responsible for my actions an inactions. Thank you for your videos

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  23. Shasha8674

    June 18, 2018 1:45 am

    Psychiatrist give medicine that may cause more depression/anxiety/suicidal thoughts. Untreated Celiac may cause all the health issues you mention. Low oxygen in the brain may cause depression/anxiety/no sleep/obsessing/panic/suicidal thoughts can be due to gluten hurting intestines so less nutrients absorb. ADD/eating disorders/abuse/addictions/cancer/gut issues/MS/OCD and more can be due to gluten. GMO may also add to it since it can hurt the gut lining also. Psychiatrist drugs may destroy people. Natural help only…no gluten/dairy/soy/sugar/GMO/food with a label…taking vitamins/good oils/minerals…probiotic…LDN…detoxing may help the brain/body. Whole family trees maybe Celiac. Tests may not work to diagnose Celiac. Parents may be sick and the child is sick….so there maybe neglect/abandonment etc.

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  24. k.S M.R

    June 18, 2018 2:15 am

    Love, love love you sooo muuuuch DEAR LISA. I am very unfortunate again missed you live ,I'm watching 11 hours later but still find it very PRECIOUS as usual.
    Lots of Love and BLESSING your wise. Big Hug all the way from Canada

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  25. RainWanders

    June 18, 2018 2:31 am

    Oh my gosh, I needed this today. Thank you, thank you, thank you. My father is a total narcissist, and he has made my life so incredibly challenging. I am still trying to fully escape, even as an adult. Thank you for doing this!!

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  26. RainWanders

    June 18, 2018 3:00 am

    "If you can handle saying no, if you can accept the consequences, say no!" Oh my gosh, this rang sooooo close to home for me. I can never ever say no without consequences, EVER. People don't understand that it's a matter of choosing whether or not I can deal with the consequences or not in that situation. Most days lately, I am realizing I just don't have the energy to deal with those consequences, so I'm giving in more and more.

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  27. Eszter L

    June 18, 2018 3:23 am

    You should absolutely“plug” your program, you’re offering nothing but amazing help, you’re doing an incredible work for so many people here on YouTube for free…don’t ever feel embarrassed for asking for your worth. People are here (at least most of them) because you’re helping them to end their suffering, I just hope you know you deserve everything you get in return and more!!! Thank you for being here for us especially on a day like Father’s Day….you’re supportive words make a HUGE difference! You’re not only gifted but generously sharing you’re gift with everyone in need! Not to mention that you’re drop dead gorgeous, looking better by the minute. Today you were glowing and it’s because you’re a beautiful person inside and out! Namaste 🙏🏻❤️

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  28. Matthew Holden

    June 18, 2018 5:49 am

    If ever there was an Angel in living flesh … it is you. Your "I Am Enough" meditation is fabulous. Never doubt who you are. You were instrumental to my healing. Thankyou. I do not know if I will meet you during this life, but I will one day. One day.

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  29. ANGEL LESHA'S FIT FOR LIFE

    June 18, 2018 11:03 am

    Thank you so much for making this video it helped me and I know it's helping many many others, sorry that you had to deal with a troll that was unhappy in their life thank you and continue to share the love namaste

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  30. Survival Farm Coach

    June 18, 2018 1:44 pm

    I'm so happy that you're here to help. When my parents were angry at me, I'd beg them to make up with me, telling them I was so sorry. But then they refused and I was banished to my room for hours. I was there alone in so much stress and anxiety. Now I'm in the same kinda relationship and this guy is so upset so fast. But I never break up with him, cause the loneliness is intolerable. And on the other side, he is also very sweet and rubs my feet, brings me tea, makes me breakfast, runs to the store for me. So I'm almost going crazy, cause I don't know what to do. Am I just crazy? Would i be crazy to let go of such a sweet guy who does anything for me when I just ask? I try every day not to give in to this feeling of trying to make up with him. Right now he is angry or so, (he never tells me, just withdraws affection) and I cannot just sit here and let him be. I HAVE to try and make up to him. I'm so sad that I cannot break this addiction. How to break this addiction?

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  31. DaphneReloaded

    June 18, 2018 5:00 pm

    Thanks Lisa! I've watched your videos for years and you always help. This was needed. You're awesome.

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  32. hippydoom

    June 18, 2018 6:48 pm

    My mother also put me down the same way. What I could never understand was that for one I inherited all of these perceived flaws from her and number 2 she wasn't attractive to me in the least bit, and number three who says those kinds of things to their own daughter?

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  33. Attie’s Mom

    June 18, 2018 7:20 pm

    Hi Lisa, I have the dark circles too, I have severe allergies, I think it can be linked to food sensitivities… Hugs Xx

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  34. LOreal Smith

    June 19, 2018 6:12 am

    I'm grateful I watched this, I didnt call my father for Father's day bc we don't any other day he wasn't very active in my life growing up and I used to feel guilty bc we didn't have a good relationship but he was a poor father. Once my parents got divorced he just ran off, he was that guy that would call and tell us to get ready he was coming and wouldnt show up or call back smh. So I love him from a distance, he criticizes my lifestyle to my kids but they know to ignore what he says. Thank you Lisa, this channel has changed my life for the better 💕 Namesta

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  35. Maureen DeVore

    June 20, 2018 3:39 am

    Father's Day was always hard for me. You are amazing. You have helped me a lot.Keep the videos coming. Thank you.

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  36. Martina Majakova

    June 20, 2018 1:23 pm

    Well done Lisa you are a very beautifull woman and you can stand up for yourself thats making you even more beatifull and inspirational to all woman 😊

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  37. Paula Xxxx

    June 21, 2018 1:40 pm

    Hi guys, can anyone explain please. I have been fighting my own codependency issues my whole life, although in the last ten years, I have taken a stand and I'm no longer willing to play that role. However, what I find from time to time, is i wish I could turn back time, because although I was codependent, I was happy with life. Hey I knew no different. I feel now, 'I'm above the veil of consciousness' no one cares and I'm totally alone.

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  38. Heidi Robinson

    June 21, 2018 7:48 pm

    Lisa I just want to thank you again for your wonderful videos! I don't believe in the Chakras but I do believe that God is love! God is glorious! I'm thankful that I know that God's love & mercy for all of his creation is real. He really does want the best for all of His creation. It's people who are flawed. We are atoms of God. Thank you again for your beautiful wonderful videos!

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  39. Devorah T.

    June 22, 2018 6:21 am

    You still look great. You're very pretty and look very good for your age. You're very intelligent and caring too, so forget all those negative thoughts.

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  40. ray m

    June 22, 2018 1:50 pm

    Nailed it at the point you just discussed: Socia media crap and dating apps feeding into isolation and separation. Needing to learn to connect with SELF and then learn to figure out who we can TRUST!!! Thats money right there Lisa. Thank you!!

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  41. creator

    June 23, 2018 3:30 am

    June 17th is an interesting date for me in some ways.Anyway, as a child, I felt that I had a father that paid the bills but, I didn't have a father at all.I still love my father. He came from a hard life humself but, I still felt like I had no father in the human sense.He was miserable and insulting. I decided to not visit him a few years before he died. I guess you could say I was going no contact but, didn't know it at the time.
    Since then, 20 years later, I have been in a long rel. with a narc. Now, I am trying to heal after all those years. My parents were both gone before I realized what had happened and why I became married to a narc.

    Thanks Lisa. Always glad to hear from you.

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  42. buvebubi

    June 24, 2018 12:12 am

    I loved my father..but he passed away. Fathers days were so easy breezy (in stark contrast to Mothers days) I miss him dearly…My mother on the other hand is the biggest narc. Your vids have helped me so so much. Everytime I get triggered and hurt by my mother's narc behavior towards me, I now see it as a game. A game that I am in control of how I want to react to. I have grown to know myself..love and honor my soul. I believe as much as we want our narc parents approval and love, we should KNOW that the real mother and father figure is the field of LOVE itself. Namaste. Thank you Lisa!

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  43. Lisa Renee

    June 28, 2018 7:24 pm

    OFF topic! I really love the curl in your hair! Another great video like always! Great information!

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  44. Deborah Savage Shaffer

    June 29, 2018 2:56 pm

    Lisa, I listen to all you NPD therapists talking about abused adult children but I can't find anything about NPD children abusing their parents. I would really appreciate it if you could do a video on it.

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  45. Lynn Marie Anderson

    July 4, 2018 2:23 am

    Father's day was rough for me. You are so intelligent!!! This has helped me, I have a very narcisstic father, thank you for reaching out!

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  46. Charlotte Hanna

    July 7, 2018 1:56 pm

    Hello Lisa. I so appreciate you and your teachings! I'm on my way up and out of this dark hole I've been in for 54 years. I'm growing my wings. Much love to you Dear One. Namaste.

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  47. Ruth Kirk

    July 10, 2018 5:42 am

    OMG, the way you handled that verbally abusive person was incredible! Wow!! I really need to learn from you. You have such grace in how you handle things and I really appreciate your wisdom. I have more to say but I have to guard myself from my own trolls (AKA my family). So maybe I'll find you on Facebook where I've blocked them.

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  48. Rebecca Williams

    July 27, 2018 7:31 pm

    Lisa you are just still the best and most amazing this was just at the right time all these stories also true for me and resignates so well going through my own healing hugging my inner child and knowing I can create all the great things I want to do in life without any of that crap holding me down staying above the Veil and you have been my light for so long now through this and helped me to turn my light 10 times brighter thank you thank you thank you all blessings and good things 2 you and your family and much love to all of us going through this struggle One loved and namaste

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  49. Kirara's Mom

    December 8, 2018 10:33 pm

    I grew up with a Mother blaming my Father for being a gone days from being truck driver.

    Jealous of my sister for not being born with cleft lip and pallet.

    My sister hate me for getting all the attention . I was born of pre mature birth and cleft pallet and lip from genetic or second smoke.

    A lot of fighting during i was growing up . Fights about money, my surgeries, my sister bulling my sister bevause she got more friends, treated better im school, etc…

    So my Mother bullied my sister, then my sister bullied me.

    I got bullied by my sister, my Mother after my sister left home, then during growing i got bullied school.

    I bullied my self all through this . It continues in my twenty . I got bullied by co workers also.

    My Fathers told me to suck it up all my life.

    I got a nervous bring don't from balancing my incontinence as i was working with my past childhood bulling and toxic environment.

    Now my Mother attacks my Father by putting him down and yelling at him.

    That is why i have Fibromyalgia ,Arthritis , and autioimmune disease of Arthritis.

    I was using sex for a band aid. As a teen i spend all my hours listening to radio in my room to block out the pain.

    I just act like i was happy , but was not. My parents block , compress emotional body.

    Having sex with toxic people will make you sick. Their energies will mix with yours.

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  50. Maria Cadman

    May 9, 2019 10:52 pm

    Lisa thank you so much for your videos. They have helped me to be more aware as a mother. I’ve learned to put the phone down and look my 4 year old in her eyes. I enjoy more now engage with her, but I am struggling with many life issues including co-dependency, addiction, depression, bi-polar disorder.

    My mother is in my life but is still using drugs, my father just got remarried to another woman although he is still married to my mom.

    I just can’t get out of this rut by myself. I want to live above the vail and be the light in which I want to see and feel in the world.

    Is there any advice you can give for someone like me?

    Thank you again and we love your work!

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  51. DaughterOfArtemis

    July 3, 2019 12:25 am

    Thank you Lisa, I really struggle sometimes. Im 30 and Ive never been able to date and if I can't be in a relationship that I fear ending…I feel like Im going to be alone forever. I want to remove the part of me that wants it, soooo badly

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  52. Love Love

    August 31, 2019 5:28 pm

    watching this on fathers day 2019 …struggling today ..really feel alone today and dreading dinner tonight with family

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