Removing Negative Self Talk | Abria Joseph | [email protected]


Translator: Maggie Scartozzi
Reviewer: Queenie Lee (Music) (Applause) How many of you at this exact moment are thinking about your bills
you have to pay, are thinking about the homework
assignment you have to turn in, are thinking about what you look like
and what you’re wearing? How’s my hair by the way? (Laughter) No. But seriously. At this exact moment you weren’t thinking about
the words that are in your head, or the stories, or the negative thoughts of fear that are happening,
that haven’t yet happened. What happened when
you heard this instrument? What did you feel? What senses were engaged? This particular instrument was created
in the year 2000 in Switzerland, originally imported from outer space, I don’t know how they got it here. (Laughter) But it’s here, and the original name for it
is called the Hang. It’s a particular company
from Switzerland. And this one is not the original Hang,
it’s another builder. There are builders all around the world. And the reason it’s called Hang
is because Hang means hand. And hand being that it’s made by hand, that it’s tuned by hand, (Dinging) and it’s played by hand. So what I wanted to share with you
is that this instrument has a voice, just like we all have a voice. And in that relationship
between playing an instrument, we also have an instrument within us,
and that’s our mind. And our ability to acknowledge
and notice what we’re thinking, and how we react to the thoughts that are happening and streaming
through us like Wi-Fi, it’s constant. So I’m sitting here and thinking about my first time
that I first experienced the handpan, and it was while I was living
in the Netherlands. And I was walking down the street
and I heard this sound, and it just pulled me,
literally, like a rope, you know, being towed all the way up
from an anchor in the sea. I was drawn to this sound, this vibration. I sat there and, in awe, just watched,
watched this person playing. And I thought about how much
I wanted to experience that for myself. What was drawing me into this sound?
Did you experience that at all? Did you feel connected to it? So the idea was that happened to me too. And as I had searched and seeked
over the last few months, I have found one for sale. They’re not an easy instrument to acquire
and they’re expensive as well. So for me, the first time
I had experienced one, I figured, I have to play this
immediately in a yoga class, I don’t have time to practice. I don’t have time to practice because if I sit there
and try to practice, it could be weeks, months, years later
before I actually play it in class. So I bought it within the first week. As soon as I was able
to teach another class, I took it into class. And you wouldn’t believe the stories
that were going on in my head. People are going to think I suck. Everyone’s going to know. And the thing is,
those were just stories, right? Because they haven’t happened yet. But why do we seem to believe the stories
that haven’t happened yet? Because they’re not true, is that right? What if your favorite song came on,
you’re with a group of people, some are friends,
some are different people just out and about maybe in public. Your favorite song, mind you. Don’t be shy, your favorite song. The song comes on, and you normally scream this song
at the top of your lungs, at home. But yet, you’re just going like this, “God, this is my favorite song, it’s my jam.” But then suddenly, you stop
because the voices in the head say: Don’t do it. You’re going
to look like an idiot. And here’s another example,
what if you had … Maybe you’re sitting in a class,
or you’re at the office or work, and you’re asked a question. And there’s a group of people,
and you know the answer to that question. But yet, you don’t raise your hand. Because maybe that question, maybe the answer
is not what you thought it was. Or maybe you actually know the question
and you know the answer; and you don’t want other people to know, “What gosh, the same person
always answers the questions.” Either way, we’re in a conundrum. We’re stuck with a battle in the mind. So what I’m sharing with you is: this took you
out of your mind, did it not? Where did it bring you? Here? Maybe here? Something that you’ve never
experienced before? How many people here have not seen
this instrument or heard it live? Ok, that is everyone but the kids
that we coached. (Laughter) So, think of it like this. In my experience, if I were then to ask you: how many of you in the room
would like to share their experience, stand up on the stage, of what you felt from this instrument
and it being played? How about you on the top
with the long black hair? Oh no, no, wait, wait. How about you with the black shoes,
right around here? No. How about you here with the glasses? Wait a second. Did you just get nervous? I can’t even see anything right now. (Laughter) So why did you feel like that? My words flowed over to you, you heard them,
processed in the processor. Pentium, whatever it is now. And now, you started to feel
uncomfortable – maybe, maybe not. And in that, I started to control, a little bit manipulate,
shift your thought process because you weren’t here, you were here. Is that right? So, if that is true and this instrument
that plays music can be tuned, I started to realize and shift my ideas
of how I would go through life. And this is my idea. I believe passionately that we can shift the negative voices and stories that are going on
in our minds into positive ones. How do you do that? Well, there’s three main questions. The first question is: is it the truth? Is whatever I’m sharing with someone,
or what you’re hearing from someone else that’s giving you feedback
about your life, true? You know a 100% that it’s true. First question. Second question: is it necessary? Is what I’m saying to myself in my head,
is it necessary in the exact moment, in what I’m doing
with my life, right then? And the third question is: does it improve upon the silence? This instrument is so powerful that it improved
upon the silence of the room. You could feel it, you could see it, and then once you see and feel,
you started to know. So here I am, and I’m thinking about the first time
that I was going through my ideas in creating my lifestyle. I, being very similar
to the students at NIST, was educated and around a lot of very creative people
that influenced me in a positive way, which is just north of San Francisco,
and a city-county called Marin. And growing up there, the people that I was around
helped shift my mind to believe before I even knew it was possible. So I was thinking of and creating
within the same age range as most of you, around 15,16,
when I first started practicing yoga. And at that time, I didn’t really know
what was going on because I was really focused on sports. Yeah, other things, you know
what I’m talking about. So, what ended up happening was I started creating
this idea of this lifestyle where I could travel around the world,
learn as much as I can, teach what I was learning,
and pass it on. How was I going to do that? In the last 5 years, as I was traveling,
pretty much since 2002, consistently, every year I’ve been back to Thailand
for the last 14-15 years. And the reason that I come back is to study, is to practice,
is to breathe, is to learn about myself. I mean, it’s rare
that you have a 21-year-old go off to a monastery
for ten days and be silent when all their friends
are in college playing. So, there was something there
that kept pulling me back here. And at that time, I created
what’s called Pranaforce yoga. And Pranaforce is our company. And the whole idea
or our vision mantra is: dream it real. Live your dreams, make it happen, just do it, right now, as if it was already happening. So I had to really shift my mind, and as I shared the story
with other friends and family, you know what, I was so excited that I thought everyone
would also believe in me. But what I found out was, it wasn’t that. Some really close friends, some really close family, did not see or believe in
what I was seeing and believing. So, this is what happened. They’d say, “Wow this is a great idea, but here’s a long list of things
why that won’t work.” And I thought,
“Wow, oh my gosh, really? Is that true? Is that necessary? Is that improving me help live my dreams?” So what I started to realize, is that a lot of people
are going to share with you ideas, I have no idea what your experience is
within work, education, anything. But let me tell you this, if you share something
with me personally, that is not where I wish to be, relationship-wise, business-wise,
finance-wise, spirit-wise, doesn’t matter what it is,
I don’t have to believe you. I can agree with you, I can nod my head and say,
“Yes, you know I totally understand.” But I don’t have to believe you
because once I start to believe you that can shift the whole chemistry in my mind. Because the thing is this, the subconscious mind
and the conscious mind don’t know the difference
between negative and positive energy. It just knows it as energy. So the subconscious mind, if we’re saying things to someone,
“You’ll never be able to do that.” That person’s subconscious mind – mine – will say, “Wait, I can’t? Oh Gosh.
OK, put that away.” But the conscious mind, educated,
smart, very cerebral will say, “Wait no, I’m smarter than that, wait.” I can stop that as long as I’m aware. How do we become more aware? We have to question the thoughts
and the stories or the voices that we have within our mind. If you do not, it’s fine. You’ll be probably
very successful, super happy, maybe even being of service
on this planet right now. But, if there is something
that you’re passionate about, that you love, a dream, live it! Van Gogh, an incredible artist from the Netherlands, Vincent van Gogh, said, “If you have voices in your mind
that say that you cannot paint, by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.” The idea is this, only we can conceptualize and understand
what’s going on in our mind. So only we can really acknowledge it and start to notice
if it’s a benefit to us. So I’m sitting here, standing, sharing with all these other people
that are also sharing about voices, the voices aren’t just audible,
talked spoken voices, these are voices within the mind. The mind, maybe the hearts,
may be other people. So we have to see it’s not
just what we speak, but it’s how we speak it,
it’s when we speak it, and all these things
that come in, cumulative, that really make a difference. So, at this point now, as I’ve been sharing
and teaching and traveling I’ve had more opportunity
to connect with people. But the biggest thing that I’ve found
is the connection with myself. If I’m not connecting with myself
in any given place, my mind will be off, my heart will be off
in other distant places. And there’s a lot of distractions
around us all the time, as we know. So I want to share with you
one short, small session, so you get another feel
of this instrument. And as you go through
this experience this time, I’d like to invite you to close your eyes. Now, what senses do we know that we have? A sense of sight, smell, taste,
sound, and touch. Take away the eyes. Give yourself just a moment. You can leave them cracked open if you’re
just a little bit weird, that’s fine. As you close your eyes here,
give yourself a moment to breathe, and feel what you feel, with no wonder or interpretation
as to what’s going on. If there’s anything within that space
within you, that you feel drawn to, just notice the thoughts,
acknowledge them, right? Like clouds in the sky, you cannot hook on
a cloud and keep it forever. It has to pass. (Playing the Hang) One of the most influential teachers in my life is from India, his name is Sai Baba. And the questions, the three questions, that I had asked you to ask yourself when those negative emotions and thoughts
arise, or stories, was from this quote: “Is what we speak the truth? Is it necessary? Does it improve upon the silence?” Namaste. (Applause)


100 Responses

  1. Jah Addrix

    August 28, 2018 11:19 pm

    anyone else notice how it skipped when he was talkin about stories in our head that haven't happens yet?

  2. Camilla Ibolya Turi

    August 30, 2018 12:17 pm

    What I noticed, he is continuously talking about himself (and his instrument) and not really about the topic. Check out how many times he says "I". Meant it as a constructive criticism dear Abria.

  3. Ramesh Kandikonda

    September 22, 2018 7:02 am

    Great story. First time, I have observed one Westerner recognizing India / Indian origin and learning.

  4. Hào Nguyễn Mạnh

    October 25, 2018 2:47 pm

    Think about nice things every single day, have something to learn, eliminate negative self talk in your mind. This speech actually impact me, i will change

  5. Gia J

    December 25, 2018 4:38 am

    It almost seems that the speaker would rather claim that the hang is from "outer space" rather than reveal that this instrument did not originate in Switzerland, but in fact was inspired by the steelpan of Trinidad and Tobago. There is no excuse for such blatant disregard for historical detail.

  6. Heidi Boraski

    January 16, 2019 7:17 am

    Do your have a link for that hang drum? there are so many out there. I love the sound of that brand.

  7. St Julpia Kirana

    February 18, 2019 5:01 am

    Please give Indonesia language subtitle and other languages too, not only English. I wanna understand it

  8. Guru Hannabanana

    March 26, 2019 7:28 pm

    Live your best life doing what you love ; be passionate in everything and silence anyone voice who tries to change it ; keep the positivity 🔥👌🏽

  9. Lessons In Life

    March 30, 2019 11:49 am

    • Money comes to me easily and effortlessly.
    • Opportunities come into my life right now.
    • Speaking in front of a large audience is easy for me.
    • I am successful in my business.
    • I am healthy and fit. 😘😘

  10. Simran Gupta

    April 6, 2019 6:15 pm

    I could relate to what he said and was already about to give the video a thumbs up, later he called Sai Baba his Guru, n thn ended with a namaste n now I cannot resist commenting!
    Love from India.

  11. Umid Mamirov

    April 18, 2019 12:18 am

    so bloody true. I am learning day by day about myself. Never believe your negative thoughts as some of them are 99.9 % false.

  12. Bessie Kaine

    May 26, 2019 12:49 am

    Is what we speak the truth
    Is it necessary
    Does it improve upon the silence
    ~ Adapted from Sathya Sai Baba

  13. Kim Handy

    May 30, 2019 7:01 pm

    An 18 minute talk that boils down to "you don't have to believe your own negative thoughts"

  14. Santiago

    June 20, 2019 12:55 am

    Inside the spaceship there is actually a tiny symphony of green aliens playing the sounds for him.

  15. JustVilipp

    July 4, 2019 9:41 pm

    Great talk. It's so important to realise that your negative thoughts are not real most of the time and often just projecting into the future. If you want to quit these thoughts you have to first identify them. Pay attention to your thinking, to your mind for a few days and write down all of your negative thought patterns. Now you know what to pay attention to and if the negative thoughts kick you can stop them. And then replace them with positive thoughts. For example if you think "I will fail anyway" stop that and replace it with "it will be a total success". Also start focusing on positive things and on the positive in everything instead of negative things. The key as in everything is long term consistency. Don't expect to change your whole thinking in one week. It will take a while but pay attention to your mind on a daily basis and eventually your thinking will shift and you will start to attract more positivity into your life.

  16. Tendai Mugoni

    July 7, 2019 1:35 pm

    Wow, I couldn't believe it. I found myself actually dancing. I love this video, and thanks.

  17. Scott Swalwell

    July 11, 2019 12:35 am

    We all need to talk to ourselves with as much love, support and encouragement as we do to our loved ones. Do this and you will be happier, achieve more success and be a much more effective person

  18. Adnan Aqeel

    July 28, 2019 8:48 pm

    The number of pauses he took in his entire presentation were not unintentional. He did it deliberately which made his whole speech calm, composed, and collected. Easy to digest and easy to understand. Smooth like I am floating and water is slowly gliding over me.

  19. ExplicitSoup

    August 2, 2019 12:35 pm

    What did anyone that closed there eyes think of during the last song? I saw a faceless pretty girl with light flowing clothes dancing in a bearly lit empty town square.

  20. sun chips

    August 13, 2019 9:02 am

    I closed my eyes when u played the hung ….and because u said just let the thoughts come ..i just thought about what u said ..first i made myself think "i can do it" …"i can do it" whatever it might be …. than i instantly thought and told myself "you cant do it"…"no you cant do it" than i thought wait✋….hold on😂is this trickery what did he just say to do with thoughts like these!? its honeslty so difficult to not listen and believe… what im telling myself😌 because i almost start believing it cause why not… Its easier to believe the negative thoughts… than to feel good and tell myself i can do it ..when i obviously know i can do it… but i start to think Yeah right how could i ever accomplish that its so far away …just like my abs Г.Г…but im curious am i the only one who feels better letting negative thoughts in rather than uplifting thoughts???… Like i would love to be the most positive uplifting motivating person out there but why is it so difficult to be motivated,inspired,determined,and less negative

  21. Michael's ML&ATG

    August 19, 2019 3:14 am

    Wow. That was an incredibly catchy & funky piece!!! That's a club beat that invokes an incredibly spiritual feeling. Dude!

  22. Ramiz Berisha

    August 24, 2019 1:54 am

    I love this video hands down…my question is how do you program your mind to be positive or lift your self or raise the energy if you are getting hit with Psychotronic weapons or REMOTE NEURAL MONITORING 24/7 attacking your thought and your brains

    I want to be a normal person so that I can lift and think and be free of these weapons just like everyone else but how do you become free from these kind of weapons ….Can someone help? Does anyone have an answer? Can you google Remote Neural Monitoring or Psychotronic Weapons and see if you can help Millions of people that are getting targeted every day 24/7 that have NO HELP….Can you explain how can I become free of pain and/or I don't have to get up every morning to these pain and suffering all day long…..I wait for your reply………

  23. Dark_Architect1

    August 25, 2019 3:51 pm

    I want to be a dog trainer, but my "friend" puts me down all of the time and says stuff like "what about saving for retirment or health insurance, you dont make enough money."
    And hes right…. but i want to be happy… but arnt those things you need in life?


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