The Secret Yogic Laws of Happiness | Daaji


Welcome to Sync Mind. For a better experience,
please Use Headphones. We all seek happiness, emotional support and a loving relationship. So we will talk today at length not so much in details but about some principles which govern the laws of happiness, how to increase emotional intelligence and better our relationships. Let me start this session with a quote from a German Philosopher, Schopenhauer. He asked, “How can we determine whether
a man is happy or unhappy?” He defined true happiness as the
complete satisfaction of all desires. Is it possible? You could say that the happiness of a person can be described mathematically in one of those lighter moments, this equation came as an inspiration. Like, if all desires are fulfilled; let’s say you had ten desires and out of these ten desires,
all ten desires are fulfilled. That means: 10 ÷10 x100=100%. There will be 100% happiness. Isn’t it? Let’s say if out of these
ten, only five are fulfilled; then it would be 50%. But think of an individual who says he has no desires. The total number would be zero. So what would happen to this equation? Happiness=Number of desires
fulfilled / Total number of desires When the total number of
desires tends to zero, anything you divide by
zero remains indeterminate. In earlier days we used to call it ‘infinite’. In a desire-less state, we don’t expect anything. When we don’t expect anything, we don’t manipulate others. Why would I have to even
manipulate or think about having a better relationship, for example, for the sake of
my happiness or for the sake of fulfilling my desires? In that case, my happiness is dependent on outside. I will fail in my life if I constantly,
all through, depend on others. Human evolution is all about self-dependency, though we interact in the
society with a lot of love, and we support each other
at an emotional level. The higher the emotional intelligence, that person is considered to be more empathetic in nature, more considerate, more compassionate. And who can be more compassionate? Can a heart which is discontent can be compassionate? When you expect nothing, you accept everything, is it possible? In a certain state, no matter what happens around us, when we realise that “Something is beyond me, I am pushed into a certain situation where I have no other choice
but to accept that scenario,” that is a good situation. Though… it can bring about a lot of
turbulence and turmoil in life, accepting whatever be the situation… helps us. Suppose you don’t accept certain
things that have happened in the family and you go on fighting; what do you learn out of this? But the moment we learn things wisely we accept, because… your heart says, because your heart feels that love. Love makes us forget all
kinds of defects in others, and it is out of this love that acceptance emerges out of compassion. How does one destroy the inner emotional state? Our experiences show that when we are angry, that is the moment when we lose this inner emotional balance; that happiness seems to simply disappear in a fit of anger. And when does anger appear in the heart? When certain things are happening against your will or against your desire. So such disappointment leads to anger, anger makes us lose our balance, and once we lose our mental equilibrium, somehow we lose our humanity because humanity, that human nature, human character, is all about the humanness which arises from the heart. And the heart is in a state of anger
because a small desire was not fulfilled. Then it speaks a lot about our nature. We need to change that inner nature so that we… remain in a position to accept things. If we want to have infinite
happiness, infinite bliss, then… we ought to minimise the number of desires from more and more of it to less and less, and finally, if possible, to zero. Make peace with yourself. When we go on expecting things in
our relationship from the other, what happens? When that expectation is not fulfilled, we think less of the other person. Over a period of time, this relationship somehow is strained, simply out of this expectation. How do we apply a scientific
principle in this relationship? Let us consider the aspect
of entropy in physics. In physics, entropy is the degree of disorder or
randomness in the system. The second law of thermodynamics says that entropy increases with time. It reflects the instability of a system over a period of time, if there is nothing to stabilise it. When you enter the room of your son or daughter,
who is five or six years old, ten years old, and you bring one toy, you bring a
second toy, you bring a third toy, books are lying everywhere; what happens if there is no help
from our side as parents to fix this, keep the toys in the right places, keep the clothes in the right places, put the books in the proper places? Some effort is required to make the place neat and clean. Somebody has to do it. External input is required
to fix things in order. In human relationships, entropy also develops if there is nothing to bring order to it. We have interactions day after day and we let things build up inside us. We keep harbouring things
and one day we explode, unless we do something about it. We need input to stabilise any relationship, to iron out the wrinkles or differences, so that we don’t harbour
and store things forever. But do we really need constant input to
bring stability and maintain a relationship? That would be a high-maintenance
relationship that you have to fuel so much, you have to make
adjustments all the time. When constant input is required every time there is a fight or tension
with a friend or family member, you will require
greater input each time. Imagine you come late home and you
have to justify to your spouse, “Honey, I am sorry, I was stuck somewhere because … whatever.” The second time it happens,
the third time it happens, and we have to go on saying whatever be the reasons. But in true relationships, you just mention what has happened and that is enough. There is no defence, but only a description
of what has happened. In a family, if you have to
tolerate each other, then constant input is required. In a situation where you have to
give constant emotional input, it is a broken family, even though you may be together. In a true relationship it is not
the tolerance that rules the life, but acceptance of each other, which is arising out of love, mutual love. In such a state of love, where things are taken for granted, you don’t need explanations,
you don’t have to speak lies, and you don’t have to manipulate any reasons. So it is the love that you have in your heart that is the input that stabilises relationships. Love brings a greater level of acceptance. From where does this love come? From a pure heart, from a truthful, genuine heart. In families where we are taught to love, to sacrifice, to accept, to remain pure, we are able to let go of everything. We can remove the incompatibility by understanding this principle of entropy. When the heart is at rest, the heart is content, the heart is in love, it doesn’t question anything; it doesn’t demand anything. Suppose you don’t accept a certain situation, then what happens? There is a problem,
there is a situation, and you say, “No, I will not accept this situation.” Fine. There is another way of looking
at it and you say, “Okay, let me see, suppose I accept the situation,” then you will study the situation: why you are accepting it. Secondly, you will learn
something out of situation. But if you snap out and say,
“I will not accept this,” then you will not be able to study
the situation and secondly, you will not learn anything out of this. You will not become wiser and on top of that,
you will strain the relationship. So, to arrive at such a state from
the heart which accepts, which loves, which remains constantly
in a state of compassion, this is possible only when I go deep within my heart, touch the real conscience, feel that real conscience all the time. Allow that conscience to rule our life. When one transcends all these differences within oneself as well as within friends and family circles, then there is beauty to such a life. The key is to go deeper within your consciousness and
touch the pure conscience. With the help of Transmission, Yogic Transmission we call “Pranahuti”, meditation becomes deeper and
deeper each time you practice it. So what have we learnt out of this? The key to happiness is to remain in tune with our inner purity, with our inner compassionate state, inner chambers of the pure heart. And when we remain pure and innocent like little children, then a magical thing happens. You Know, One craves to go to heaven, the religions talk about our ascension into heaven, but in such a heart, such a simple and pure heart, loving heart, when it is made so, heaven descends. You don’t have to go to heaven.
Heaven itself descends into our heart. There is joy all the time. I wish you all a wonderful life ahead joyful, peaceful and a most
accomplished life in all spheres. Thank you for listening.


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  1. Wisdom with Binaural Beats by Sync Mind

    December 5, 2019 7:03 pm

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