What Makes Us Like Or Dislike Something | How To Master The Mind | Part 3

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What is the cause of attachment. Why do
we get attached somewhere? Everybody has got different attachments
somebody is so attached to the carrier he doesn’t care for the family, somebody
is so attached to the wife he doesn’t care for the carrier, somebody is so
attached to money they have bride burning in India, so much of attachment to
money, somebody says “sab bhad mai jaey botal lao” he is attached to his alcohol. So
what is causing attachment? What is the cause of desire? Everybody has got different desires
sitting listening to the lecture somebody’s mind goes to jalebi
somebody’s mind goes to chai somebody’s mind goes to the child or the parents in
India everybody’s desires are different. What
is creating desires within us. Somebody’s desiring money money money
somebody’s desiring prestige prestige prestige. What is happening in this inner
world that is leading to the creation of different kinds of desires?
again the Geeta, “quoting from Bhagwad Gita” 2.64 Cause of desire is
attachment. When the mind is attached to some object or to some person the
attachment of the mind causes desire not the intrinsic object as such. You see
like you may say that you know something has got a wonderful taste
hence it creates desire of course not Tell me does alcohol have a good taste
chi chi Swamiji it causes vomiting to me but you ask the same question to an
alcoholic, who says bad taste when I go by the pub and I get the
whiff of it I start swaying from side to side. So you say I’ll give you a better
tasting thing forget about alcohol I’ll give you milk
with kesar pista and badam and saffron on it. I don’t want that I want alcohol see
he doesn’t want just taste he wants that to which his mind has got attached. Now
your mind is attached to your child you place your child in the lap, you smell the
child the child’s nose may be flowing may have done excreta it doesn’t matter
to you supposing I say place your nose on your
neighbors body for 20 minutes. Swamiji in the summers he’s sweating how can I do
that he’s foul-smelling. Really your neighbor is smelling and your child is
not smelling? Yea the child should be smelling I don’t know why he’s not
smelling. Your mind is attached the attachment has created the desire to
hold the child to hear the child to see the child it is not the intrinsic
qualities your child may be beautiful or ugly that doesn’t matter.
One mother her child got lost in the fair, she had gone to you know Anand
Bazar Mela and the child got lost. So she went to the policeman my child has got
lost the policeman said mother five lost-and-found children have been
brought see which of them is yours. My child is not here. Mother how does your child look like? my child he walks with a limp and his hand
is contorted and because of a paralytic attack his face is twisted and he
doesn’t have one eye there a pock marks on his face. CheeChee
mother what kind of child are you desiring? You have seen such beautiful
children just pick anyone and feel your maternal affection. The mother says Mr.
policeman are you crazy, I don’t want any of them, I don’t want any beautiful child
I want my child to whom I am attached you will never understand a mother’s
heart. See the mother wants her child to whom she has got attached so what is
creating the desires it’s not the intrinsic qualities of some object it is
the attachment of our mind that is what Lord Krishna stated “quoting from Bhagawd Gita” number one comes attachment , your mind is attached number two comes desire number three the fulfillment of desire
leads to greed and number four it’s obstruction leads to anger
straightforward logic. Now if we are attached we cannot avoid desire,
impossible and if we are not attached we will not experience desire and
everything else will get dismantled So then desires seems to be caused by
attachment. Attachment is the cause of it all but what is the cause of attachment? Why
do we get attached somewhere? everybody has got different attachments. Somebody
is so attached to the carrier he doesn’t care for the family somebody is so
attached to the wife he doesn’t care for the carrier, somebody is so attached to
money they have bride burning in India so much of attachment to money
somebody says “sab bhad mai jai botal lap” he’s attached to his alcohol, so what is
causing attachment? Okay this is the important one, it is our own
contemplation that causes attachment! See here is how Shri Krishna begins the link “quoting Bhagawad Gita” Arjun when you repeatedly
contemplate happiness somewhere when you repeatedly think this will give me
happiness this has got pleasure this will satisfy
me, your own repetition of thought creates the attachment. It doesn’t come
from the outside somebody repeatedly contemplated
happiness in cigarettes How did one get attached to cigarettes
where you born a cigarette smoker from the mother’s stomach
get me the Marlboros otherwise I will not be happy
No then when that boy or girl went to college and she got some newfound
freedom then he saw his friends dangling cigarettes between the two fingers he
said their personality looks very impressive. His intellect said you know
there is happiness in cigarettes so he tried one and it was a foul experience,
he started coughing his eyes became red his friends instigated no no it’ll give
you happiness it is giving us happiness so he kept on contemplating yes there is
happiness there is happiness so he started taking one hiding from the
parents sitting in the restroom, under the staircase and then it increased to
two everyday then thr ee everyday and ten everyday and then it became a link one
has got extinguished the second one is required that has got extinguished the
third one is required now a link has got created. The same cigarette that he first
tried out let us see what is there in this now the cigarette comes into his
mind and pinches him, smoke me I will not let you live in peace. How did this
attachment come about by repeatedly thinking there is happiness there!

 

41 Responses

  1. APARNA SHARMA

    November 24, 2018 9:22 pm

    Attchments is cause of desire.and attchments is caused by our contemplation of happiness. A great clip.

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  2. Dr. Krishan Chhabra

    November 25, 2018 3:09 am

    Swami Ji – Concise and clear explanation! The root of attachment is the repetition of thoughts. That then leads to why not have positive divine thoughts to minimize the cycle of desire, greed and anger! Thank you!

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  3. Prasanna S

    November 26, 2018 1:11 am

    Attachment leads to Desire and that leads to Greed and Anger. Thanks, Swamiji for relating this golden truth about what makes us like or dislike something. This is why the mind should always be attached to the divine, which will purify and elevate it towards divine bliss. Radhe Radhe.

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  4. Prachi R

    November 26, 2018 9:46 pm

    Very true, our repeated contemplation on a object of senses, our intellect decides, that is where we associate our happiness.

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  5. shruti maggo

    November 27, 2018 7:29 pm

    There is a famous quote “Attachment leads to disappointment”
    Swamiji is explaining about desires and attachment in this clip.

    Cause of desire is attachment. If the desire is fulfilled, greed comes and when it is not fulfilled anger takes birth.

    Everybody is running after happiness but does not realise that the true happiness is not present in this material world

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  6. Vinod Kapoor

    December 1, 2018 10:33 pm

    Attachments of mind lead to
    Desires…….. resulting in
    Greed or Anger, when fulfilled or not!!
    Contemplating creates attachments.

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  7. Koustubh Warty

    December 2, 2018 7:46 am

    Wow so attachment is the one that pulls us towards desire, greed, etc. wonderful thank you Swamiji!!!

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  8. Preeti Malhotra

    March 11, 2019 3:32 pm

    Attachment is a result of chintan, or repeated contemplation of happiness in something or someone. Understand this and know why it is you like or dislike what you do!

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  9. Prithvi Dabbikar

    April 19, 2019 6:45 pm

    1)Cause of attachment – repeatedly thinking about objects (that we assume that gives happiness, over period of time it become link in mind and acts against us)
    2)Cause of desire is attachment
    3)cause of greed is fulfilment of desire
    4)cause of anger is obstruction of desire
    5)give up desire and pride result is PEACE
    Thank you swamii

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  10. Prachi R

    May 17, 2019 1:12 am

    Our unique likes and dislikes aren't definitely an accidental occurrence. The attachment of the mind stems from our deep belief and assumption of happiness = our attachment. Thank you Swami ji

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  11. Meenu Kapoor/Kripaludassi

    May 17, 2019 1:23 am

    When we repeatedly think that this will cause me happiness it causes attachment and desires.

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  12. swapna simhadri

    May 17, 2019 1:36 am

    Attachment of the mind to object or person is not based on the qualities but mere by repeated contemplation …. when mind is attached then it cannot avoid desire and if there is no desire then everything gets dismantled…..
    Thank you Swamiji for this wonderful explaination that how desires are created and the consequences if we are attached to the results….
    Radhey Radhey

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  13. priyanka pradhan

    May 17, 2019 1:57 am

    Wonderful video swamiji about attachment 🙏
    Our own contemplation leads to Attachment!
    Attachment causes the desire,which leads to greed and anger.
    Radhey Radhey

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  14. Lata Srivats

    May 17, 2019 12:43 pm

    Swamiji has so wonderfully pinpointed the cause of our likes and dislikes. He explains it very logically with real life examples. This video also gives us hope that we can create our likes and dislikes.

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  15. Jhansi tavva

    May 17, 2019 10:57 pm

    Cause of desire is repeated contemplation and they can be very subtle too. which is the cause of anger and greed.

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  16. Ajit Behera

    May 18, 2019 6:30 pm

    This is so much of a wonder- why are we attached to something ? The inner world is restless by this never ending rat race.Mind is so tuned to it's own taste, hence so strong desires. The intellect takes a decision and the mind gets attached to the object of interest and search for happiness only.

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