Why The Mind Hates Meditation

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To avoid all evil, to cultivate good, and
to cleanse one’s mind – this is the teaching of the Buddha. Meditation has been scientifically proven
to have many health benefits, like reduced anxiety and better emotional health. While this is great, I also see many people
struggling with incorporating meditation in their daily routines. Even though it takes some effort to adopt
new habits, there’s one thing at play that doesn’t like meditation. At all. This is the mind. In this video, I’ll explain why the mind
hates meditation. First of all: thank you Kristine for your
support on Patreon. I appreciate it, and it helps me to continue
this project. So, I won’t deny that experienced meditators
won’t have too much trouble meditating whenever they want, because the wise part of their
thinking mind has become dominant. However, the average Joe, myself included
often experiences a mind that’s overly active: eager to solve puzzles, analyze past events
and calculate future possibilities, no matter if it’s past midnight. The mind is a precious tool. But when it’s out of control, it can be
a destructive monster as well. The quality of our thoughts is so important
because emotions are the consequence of it. As emperor and Stoic philosopher Marcus Aurelius
puts it: The things you think about determine the quality
of your mind. Your soul takes on the color of your thoughts. End quote. Negative thoughts most likely cause fear,
anger or grief. Positive thoughts most likely cause laughter. It’s not uncommon that people that are in
a constant state of negative thinking, end up being depressed or anxious. This makes overthinking dangerous, because sufferers may end up hurting and even killing themselves. The ancient practice of meditation proves
to be a cure for the restless mind. The Buddhists call such a mind a monkey mind,
because it tends to jump from branch to branch. Currently, Western health care has begun acknowledging
the benefits of meditation, so we increasingly see doctors prescribing it to their patients. The most common form of meditation is breath
meditation. It’s very simple, really. You just sit down or lay down, and watch the
breath. You can focus on how the breath enters your
nostrils, or how it fills up the lungs and belly, and you can also focus on the moments
between the in- and out-breath. The mind will do anything to divert your attention
to the thoughts it produces. And when that happens, you focus your attention
back on the breath. And when it happens again, you, again, bring
back your attention to your breath. The essence of this practice is that you don’t
engage with your thinking mind, but just let it be… ..watch the thoughts come and go like
clouds in the sky. By focusing your attention to the breath,
you anchor yourself to something that is not your thinking. Even though the practice is so simple, it’s
incredibly difficult for many overthinkers to actually do it on a regular basis. I experience that the more active my mind
is, the less I want to do it. Especially in the evening after a busy day
with lots of distractions, my thinking is often so amped up, that I’d rather scroll
down the Facebook feed or watch pointless videos on YouTube than sitting down for twenty
minutes watching my breath. This doesn’t make sense, because checking
social media and watching videos is even more tiring for an already tired mind, while watching
the breath gives the mind a break. So, what’s the problem? The Buddha also noticed that it’s difficult
to tame the mind. I quote: Wonderful, indeed, it is to subdue the mind,
so difficult to subdue, even swift, and seizing whatever it desires. A tamed mind brings happiness. End quote. The struggle is, that the mind that knows
that meditation is good for you, is the same mind that doesn’t want to stop thinking. This part of the mind doesn’t like meditation. In fact it hates it, simply because meditation
subdues its very purpose: thinking. Now, we can make distinctions between mental
states. A mindfulness based therapy called Dialectical
Behavior Therapy, that is used to treat mood disorders, distinguishes three mental states:
the reasonable mind, the emotional mind and the wise mind. The emotional mind is a non-logical state
that is dominated by emotions and creates a very subjective view on reality. The reasonable mind operates based on facts,
and is great at planning and analyzing. Both of these states, however, can be out
of control. The wise mind is a healthy balance between
the two; it’s the part that knows what’s best for you. In a state of turmoil, the little voice that
knows that the mind needs a break is coming from the wise mind. The emotional mind however, wants to be completely
immersed in feelings, no matter if it’s anger, grief or laughter. And the reasonable mind wants to solve the
future’s problems and sort out past events and it’s exhausting itself doing so. The stronger the reasonable and emotional
mind are, the harder it gets to actually listen to the wise mind’s voice. Meditation is a method to tame the mind, even
though it doesn’t want to be tamed. That’s why it’s so difficult to meditate
on a regular basis; it’s going against the very thing that the mind enjoys doing. Luckily, there’s always a part in us that
knows what’s best. The key is: listening to it. Thank you for watching.

 

85 Responses

  1. Isaiah Thomas

    August 11, 2019 7:48 pm

    Subscribed to your channel, you been making some well put videos and gains the viewers a lot of knowledge thank you!

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  2. FREEDOM LIGHTRIDER

    August 11, 2019 7:53 pm

    The mind is a tool through which the spiritual mind, your godself and true identity and individuation of God Source, works. It's a tool only. It doesn't have any devious or malevolent agendas or any agenda at all. Your level of connection to your godself determines how much interest you have in meditating. Meditating isnt complex and everyone does it sporadically throughout the day whether they're aware of it or not. It's a calm internal focus inward within the mind and not nearly as complex and mysterious and self important as some want to make it.

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  3. satnamo

    August 11, 2019 7:54 pm

    The eternal bliss of nirvana lies in the mind at rest; be still and the whole universe will surrender. Be still and know that I am god.

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  4. Asher Topaz

    August 11, 2019 7:55 pm

    Found out through research that meditation can cause heightened productivity and success.If you can stay in a meditative state where your mind is quiet but alert for long periods of time your mind starts staying in that state outside meditation allowing some form of cognitive intuition that your normally not aware of to flow to your conscious awareness but you can only become aware of it when your mind is quiet.Its like experiencing aha moments 24/7

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  5. Frank Me

    August 11, 2019 8:14 pm

    I once had a dream. I was being attacked by bugs that eat thinking minds. I had to stop thinking but couldnt stop thinking. I was thinking to stop thinking. They were in my nose ears… then I realized I need to learn to stop thinking so much.

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  6. Michael Bannerman-Roberts

    August 11, 2019 9:42 pm

    we exist in duality, as a dynamic expression of life. Duality contains the mundane and the divine, the mind identifies with the divine but wants to control it.(😂)
    It will do almost anything to maintain that "control".
    Meditation is the water that smooths the rock, the sunlight which lets the spirit grow and shine; our minds use a distorted view of reality to exercise control and, as a consequence, the mind manifests a reality which mirrors itself. (😱)
    We are like a tardis – the world inside is infinitely greater than the world outside.
    One person, who has achieved balance can change the world – when many people take this path, we have evolution.
    Good vid – the mind is our greatest enemy and can b a demon in disguise. Thank you v much.

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  7. Chris Mcmillan

    August 11, 2019 10:33 pm

    The aim of meditation isn't to stop or change thoughts or feelings, it's to be at ease with them. Being able to do this is more useful.

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  8. paxwallacejazz

    August 11, 2019 10:49 pm

    Thank you for this video. I keep falling off the meditation wagon. When I was meditating regularly my then psychiatrist noticed how much more nonplussed and centered I became how much less judgmental I became.

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  9. lele melema

    August 11, 2019 11:06 pm

    Amazing video! I recommend meditation to everyone, it is amazing how much our mind can tell us when we listen and it can be very interesting experience if you give it a try.

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  10. Dennis M. Hilario

    August 12, 2019 12:23 am

    Thanks for another insights. I’ve been trying to squeeze in meditation in my time but i realized that time is not the issue. My mind just doesnt want it.

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  11. Jukes//

    August 12, 2019 1:11 am

    I have recommended meditation to my friends before and often I get a response like "Oh, I would, but I just can't sit still."
    That's what it attempts to fix lmao, do you also not buy glasses because you can't see where you put them???

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  12. fntime

    August 12, 2019 1:49 am

    If you are doing too much thinking, the Ego doesn't want to 'step down'.
    It's controlling the 'mechanism' and doesn't want to surrender its
    primacy. It is an actual process. Suggestion: Develop a series of
    mantra's, words or simple sentences' that repeat until you can
    surpress the Ego's need for primacy. You can't think of 2 thoughts
    at the same time, so the mantra will suppress the thoughts of
    the Ego which is producing it's own thoughts. You may have to
    repeat your mantra's for up to 20 minutes. But at some point the
    Ego's thinking will begin to slow down! At this point, if you suppress
    all thought, you'll will exist in the world of non thought while still
    having awareness. I think many use drugs to attain this state,
    but once you practice it will become easier. You should do this
    daily or twice a day and it will be easier to reach this state.
    Good luck, all~

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  13. Lawrence Shaw

    August 12, 2019 6:19 am

    My brain doesn't hate meditation, my brain hates negative and overthinking. My brain loves meditation 🙂

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  14. S L

    August 12, 2019 7:20 am

    Very good analogy, awesome video. 👌🏻
    I also struggle with an over active mind.
    A simple meditation hack I learned for those who want to get into it faster.
    24 hours in a day. A lot of minutes during the day you do nothing, standing in a queue, waiting for a video to buffer or anything.
    Even meditating 1 minute, multiple times per day would have an amazing effect on your mind. Obviously you should over the long term try to incorporate a longer meditation duration.
    But there's never a bad time to meditate regardless of the duration.

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  15. Rob Goodsight

    August 12, 2019 9:17 am

    …as Alan Watts said .as an example..if you want to give up something…smoking for instance, the other you inside knows exactly what you are going to to and opposes it.
    Don't think about.
    Do it.

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  16. Lohengrin

    August 12, 2019 9:23 am

    Beautiful video, great message. I just realized that the mind is nothing, but a wild animal that needs to be tamed, or it will slowly eat you alive. Been meditating for a couple weeks, and I already see positive changes in my thinking habits. Thank you for your valuable content!

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  17. a banana

    August 12, 2019 10:59 am

    i feel like what you talk about holds a lot of parallels to Freuds psychodynamic theory. he talks about there being an id ( emotional mind), the ego (rational mind) and a super ego (wise mind). great video bro

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  18. Ралица Тодорова

    August 12, 2019 12:09 pm

    There is an app called simple habit. It is about guided meditation. There are sessions for five and ten minutes and also for every part of your day like when you are commuting for example or when you are taking a break from work. It is very individual but this app worked wonders for me. Maybe it is because it enabled me to include meditation in my bussy schedule. I've been meditating for two weeks every day and my anxietty becomes less and less gradually. I actually started enjoying my life, something that sadly wasn't happening in a very long time. Meditation is amazing and by far the best method that worked for reducing my anxiety and I reccommend it to everyone !

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  19. Dylan Wilson

    August 12, 2019 12:42 pm

    freemeditation dot com can teach you all you're looking for and guide you to local classes around the world.

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  20. Alyson Arnott

    August 12, 2019 1:48 pm

    Thank you so much!!! I love your videos, they absolutely have helped broaden my understanding of meditation and stoicism

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  21. I Like YouTube.

    August 12, 2019 3:02 pm

    Misery that a Person may suffer can't be ignored either u suffer from depression or long lasting pain its up to a person to make better choices in life and it starts with medidation which is very powerful habit to keep up without a doubt.

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  22. Алексей Балтер

    August 12, 2019 3:33 pm

    Yogic texts stress the connection between the breath and state of mind – when right nostril is dominant, there is pre-disposition towards physical activity and extroversion, and left nostril dominance is conductive to stillness and contemplation. They switch multiple times during the day, and there is a well known exercise (nadi shodana pranayama) one can easily learn that adjusts the flow as required.

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  23. Polly Tox

    August 12, 2019 3:40 pm

    I had medicated for almost 3 years and my mind never get used to it. So i gave up because I found another solution wich i really don't want to advertise here because it is not for everyone one and might even be dangerous to some ppl 😉

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  24. Christine Cunningham

    August 12, 2019 10:18 pm

    If the mind doesn’t like meditation, giving it another “purpose” such as focusing on the in-and-out breath, should make it happy. 🤗

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  25. Marko

    August 13, 2019 2:05 am

    Meditation is something you have to allow yourself to practice.

    You are not your mind
    You are not your actions
    Your consciousness is not your brain or anything physical or in the category of substance.

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  26. Michaela Turner MA

    August 13, 2019 1:36 pm

    @4:10 Just like the heart beats, the mind moves. Would you stop your heart from beating 20 minutes per day? Of course not. Neither do we attempt to stop the mind from thinking. Taming the mind, as he stated @5:47, is the goal of meditation. Watch the mind move. When you remember, bring the mind's attention back to the breath. Then let the mind go. Repeat.

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  27. The Anomaly

    August 13, 2019 4:33 pm

    I have practice meditation for years, close the eyes and get to sweet spot in 10-15mins.
    you'll get that 'sweet spot' longer if you have not meditate for a long time or you're in stress.

    I have no special methods, not even observe my breath. Just let it go.
    My tips is just sit, relax as long as you can. Usually the sweet spot came after 30mins(yeah, kinda long) for beginner or longer if your mind are really busy. After hit that sweet spot, your next session will be easier

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  28. Indrit V. Malita

    August 13, 2019 5:41 pm

    I love all your videos, friend and I wanted to let you know that there is not one video in your channel that is not helpful. Keep up the amazing work.

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  29. チエリー

    August 14, 2019 8:07 am

    I've been meditating for more than two months, and it's really an amazing experience for me. I am still learning to mediate, though. But that's fine. At first it was a struggle and there are times I just don't want to do it. But after a month, I just don't feel complete without meditating after and before going to sleep. :3

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  30. legalise nature

    August 14, 2019 9:56 am

    Take away your favourite distraction for a year and see how hard your mind fights to avoid discipline

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  31. Sam Mujkic

    August 14, 2019 10:27 am

    Because when u shout u mind u soul gets higher frquency only when u lost u mind soul kick and travels begins, not like religious maniacs brain wash puppets how repeting bla bla shit of invisible dude in sky, that's why they keep u in control by manipulating and mastrubatiing u mind until u explode lol 👍👍👍👍👍

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